Close the (Thigh) Gap

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While thumbing through Facebook the other day, I came across these words from my glamazon friend and Girls Gone Strong cofounder Molly Galbraith:

So if your feet are together and your thighs don’t touch, that’s called a Thigh Gap.

What’s it called if your feet are 4 inches apart and your thighs still touch?

Oh yeah.

Dem Quadz…

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I burst out laughing. There’s no doubt about it: The so-called “thigh gap,” which is being positioned as a desirable trait for women to possess, has been horrifying many of my friends lately, and rightly so. Combating it with humor and grace? Totally Molly’s style.

If you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, bless you, you lucky thing. Because once you know, you cannot unknow.

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Not me.

The thigh gap is how much space exists between your upper legs when you stand with your feet together. I am proud to say that I have exactly none north of my knees, and that even my calves touch (yes, really).

If more skin-on-skin contact were the goal, I would be golden. Alas, in our cultural pursuit of becoming less, the goal is, of course, less contact — more daylight, shining right through your legs.

Many women remain unmoved by this campaign, and in fact relish quite a different aesthetic. I am one of them. During the past several weeks, as part of a video project I’m involved with, I averaged approximately a thousand lunge reps per day, and as a result, I noticed an increased girthiness to my own thighs. This was a pleasant realization — in my world, juicy quads are a good thing. All the better to squat with, you know? 

Regardless of whether you squat or don’t give one, this is a discussion worth having, because to position the thigh gap as a fitness goal indicates that it’s achievable based on your behavior…and this, frankly, may not be.

MIND THE GAP

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To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

Because here’s the problem, which exists in nearly every aesthetic-based fitness goal you can set: It may not be the right goal for you. In this case, the existence (or not) of said gap is due in large part to body type, skeletal structure and connective tissue length.

BODY TYPE

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By body type I mean the flesh on your bones. Ectomorphs — naturally thin, lithe types who have a difficult time putting on muscle or fat — are the only ones of us who may feasibly be prone to gappiness, and they make up a very small percentage of the population.

Mesomorphs, with their propensity toward muscularity, and endomorphs, who naturally tend to carry greater amounts of muscle and fat, are likely pursuing a goal they don’t have much hope at achieving — at least not without great insult to their own physiology. (Granted, most people consist of a blend of two types, but my point remains — ectomorphs ain’t all that common.)

PELVIC STRUCTURE

Pelvic Types

Another consideration lies in our very bones. As I was pondering this topic, I recalled a blog post I’d read earlier this year about the four different types of pelvic structures. In it, Dean Somerset, exercise physiologist, strength coach, and creator of Post Rehab Essentials, made a strong case for the shape of your hips — that is, the width and depth of its sockets, and the angles of the bony interactions of your pelvis and femurs — directly affecting your ability to deadlift well, not to mention squat, move laterally and even touch your toes.

Not surprisingly, these four types of pelvic structures don’t just act different from one another. They look different, too.

When I approached him with the theory that perhaps these same pelvic shapes could give one a leg up (pun intended) on achieving a thigh gap, he wholeheartedly agreed. “There are absolutely differences in pelvic structures — and more specifically in femoral neck angulation — that can predispose someone to having more of a gap than others,” says Somerset. “Essentially, the wider the pelvis and the closer the femoral neck angle is to 90 degrees, the greater the spacing between the thighs will be, irrespective to leg length, body fat, muscle mass, and so on.”

What does this mean? You can have two women who have identical leg lengths, thigh circumferences, and body-fat percent and distribution, and the one who has the right combination of bony alignment at the pelvis and femoral neck will show a gap, whereas the other won’t.

Think about that: Is your goal really to alter your skeleton?

TENDON LENGTH

Adductors

There’s more. “Another feature is the positioning of the belly [the thickest part] of the adductor muscles [of the inner thigh] in relation to the tendon. Some people are born with the thicker part of the adductor muscles in a higher relative position on their thigh than others, which would limit the amount of spacing in between the thighs,” says Somerset. “If someone is born with a longer tendon length to her adductors, she will show a gap much easier than someone with a shorter tendon length, completely irrespective of fitness, body composition, or workout history.”

In other words, there ain’t nothing you can do about it.

Close the Gap

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have goals, and that they shouldn’t take work; the sacrifice of time and energy. But I am strongly suggesting we examine whether or not our stated goals make a lick of sense before we pursue them. I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.

And, I’m calling all women for whom the gap isn’t a sensical or desirable goal, and suggesting that we instead celebrate our strong, full, meaty-ass gams, either privately or publicly. If you opt for the latter, send a photo — like mine at the top — to photos@jensinkler.com, and I’ll add them to the #closethethighgap album at my Facebook page, Thrive as the Fittest.

Note: Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”

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Author:Jen Sinkler

Fitness writer and editor, workout connoisseur, meditator, proponent of spandex, former rugby player; never, ever without lip gloss.

142 Responses to “Close the (Thigh) Gap”

  1. Ivy
    November 7, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    Freakin YES! Love this! Totally playing. I see this becoming a popular hashtag on IG and twitter. Blow it up girl!!

    Also, really appreciate the research you put into this post. Thank you!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:00 pm #

      Thanks, Ivy! I’m loving all the places I’m seeing this post!:)

    • anon
      June 29, 2015 at 7:00 pm #

      I have a ‘thigh gap’. My hips measure 11 inches wider than my waist and I am slim. Until the ‘thigh gap crraze’ my only issue was envying people who could drop things and have their lap save said things…I once was texting, my phone fell through my thigh gap and into a puddle…life is cruel. Anyhow, after the craze I”m now having my body questioned because I DO have a thigh gap…blogs that encourage people to say no to aspects of some body types or purpose to value one type over another are all as bad as each other. I cannot simply ‘close’ my thigh gap. Does that mean I am less beatiful or my legs arm’t attractive enough for me too include their photo or even have my legs / body accepted by the likes of you? You say it is a matter of genetics and claim to champion beauty as something deriving from making the moat of what we have, yet go on to extol love of a specific feature, just like those who covet ‘the thigh gap’.

      It is tha same deal as those whose responce to thin models is to then have fat folk parade the cat walk…why not have both, and all inbetween…so we, everyone of us, can look up and see ourselves being celebrated for the marvels we are…fat, thin, four or however many limbed, tattooed, freckled, gap toothed, curly or straight or no haired etc etc…difference makes us astounding, without it no comparison could even be drawn and beauty wouldn’t be up for discussion!

      • July 13, 2015 at 10:41 am #

        Anon

        I agree, there is nothing wrong with you, as there is nothing wrong with any body type. This day and age it seems everyone is out to get those that don’t look like a norm they have in their heads. A friend I know, she naturally has wider hips, is in awesome shape and has a natural thigh gap. She is in perfect proportion for her height and size, not skinny, not fat and very healthy. Thigh gap, breast size, labia size and many other things that women seem to love/hate need to be just accepted as they are. Any person I am with, I am happy to be with as they are, I love the diversity that we have in humanity.

  2. William Eberle
    November 7, 2013 at 5:58 pm #

    Frankly, I’ve not understood this whole issue. This “thigh gap” thing seems a completely artificial and meaningless measure. Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.

    More great wisdom, Jen, thanks for sharing this! This is very important!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

      You said it, William: “Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.”

      Perfectly stated.

  3. November 7, 2013 at 6:04 pm #

    I gave up being skinny in favor of being strong a long time ago, and as a result I have quads of steel! I checked, and if my feet are touching so are my thighs. I have never been happier in my own skin. Thank you for your post. So awesome!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      So happy to hear YOU’RE happy! That is what’s really attractive.

  4. November 7, 2013 at 6:23 pm #

    I have no problem with the fact I have no gap. My complaint is with the chafing. After a long hike I feel like I need to sit on an ice pack.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      Cindy,
      Andria’s recommendation is something a lot of my rugby friends use, too.

  5. Andria
    November 7, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Cindy – I am a fattie who loves dresses, and I swear by Body Glide for the chub rub. It keeps me comfortable all day. YMMV, of course, but it has helped me tremendously.

  6. GirlCanLift
    November 7, 2013 at 7:17 pm #

    YES, a thousand times yes. And there’s another parameter : age. Many girls showing off thigh gaps are super skinny teenagers. Most of them will lose it in their 20s. Simply because after puberty is over, and we stop growing up, our body changes as it prepares for motherhood. The pelvis gets wider (which is your point), the thighs get thicker, among other things like a more pronounced waist and slightly wider rib cage. We put some meat and fat on, and our bone structure settles in its adult form.

    Also, if you look at most pictures, they usually adopt a specific posture for it to show. Butt out, legs slightly bent, torso down. I can do that too, but stand up, put your feet together, and poof.

    There are some adult women who have it, but it’s just how they’re made, and not the majority. And if the average woman has ever been even slightly overweight after her puberty, chances are she’ll never be able to get it back.

    And TBH, I really think shapely legs, whether they’re muscular or not, are much much more pretty than straight shapeless ones. And here’s where I say, I hate my sister lol.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

      I hope we can make an impact on how young girls feel about their bodies.

  7. November 7, 2013 at 7:46 pm #

    Love this post!!! Bless the hearts of the poor teenage girls who find self worth in a thigh gap! (Which in my opinion is the bigger issue.) However … lest we not forget, after you push out kids (I pushed out twins) your hips can spread! So yes my (very average, dimply) thighs do not touch … but that’s only to thanks the process of child birth. I would never boast around my thigh gap, because in reality there is not the muscle tone or strength that would determine my body strong. Bottome line, everybody is different, so heaven forbid we hold everyone to the same unrealistic standard!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

      I love your bottom line — everybody is different, ain’t no thang!

  8. catmich3
    November 7, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

    Open and closed case here. If you have or haven’t got a gap, embrace the fact that you have the ability to stand up, look in the mirror and love the reflection. What’s your option? Try being paralyzed and unable to stand on your own to pull on a pair of yoga pants……#getreal

  9. November 7, 2013 at 10:23 pm #

    Yes!!! I LOVED this! I hate when I see body types becoming a trend, making it impossible for most women to achieve them. We should all have the chance to understand our genetics, body types, and what’s physically possible to obtain before setting goals. This was amazing to read.
    Oh, and the statement from Lulu made me sick. This guy is selling workout clothes to WOMEN and he said that.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:08 pm #

      Yes yes YES to all of that, Melissa!

  10. November 8, 2013 at 3:47 am #

    Love this, I am a cyclist. Proud to say I have no gap. Just strong, strapping shapely thighs 😉

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      Can’t go wrong with strong, strapping, shapely thighs!

  11. Krista
    November 8, 2013 at 8:54 am #

    Love it! Absolutely love it. :’)

  12. November 8, 2013 at 10:49 am #

    This is one of the best things I’ve ever read! I have never, and never will have a thigh gap (nor do I want one). It has admittedly taken me a long time, but I do love my big ol’ quads. Thigh gap shmigh gap, I’d rather be able to squat my body weight, thank you very much!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:10 pm #

      Love that love you got for your leggies! That is the way forward (literally).:)

  13. November 8, 2013 at 10:55 am #

    I love that you wrote this and laid it out well. When I was younger, I noticed my thighs touched and thought it was a big deal in a negative way as my other middle school girl class mates had skinny legs. Not until recent articles, such as this one, I didn’t realize how widespread this worry was among women and that the worry has a name. Glad people are taking ownership of the term and educating on it in a good way. Info like this needs to start at an even younger age. I hated I had big legs back then but now my calves receive many random compliments. If only I had known at age 10 what I know now…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

      If only, right?? So much worry for naught.

  14. November 8, 2013 at 11:40 am #

    That article about pelvis dimensions *really* resonated with me. Thank you for that. The first time I had to do weighted squats in a (Crossfit) gym I wanted to cry. I loved the deadlift right away, but that stupid squat was my nemesis. And I get so tired of people saying “Well people in Northeast Asia squat all the time.” Well, great, by I’m not from there! I can squat now, but it’s not all pretty like Neghar Fonooni. And furthermore, I don’t think it’s true that all kids can squat from birth either. I couldn’t and my son can’t. There is an anatomical factor at play that’s difficult if not impossible to factor out.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm #

      Yep, no one thing is true for everyone, and more personal trainers would do well to heed that fact.

  15. November 8, 2013 at 11:53 am #

    So, my mom actually used this in a pep-talk when I was in high school. I was depressed because I had big (DD) saggy boobs and jiggly thighs. Not even kidding, this is how the pep talk went:

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your boobs are saggy?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “You lift up your boob, put a pencil under it, drop your boob, and if the pencil stays, you have saggy boobs.”

    The penciled stayed.

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your thighs are fat?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “Stand with your legs together and you should have three holes. One at your ankles, one at your knees and one at the top of your thighs.”

    I had no holes, not one.

    To this day I give her a hard time, “Really, that was your pep-talk to a 14yo? How could you *not* tell that I was going to fail those tests.”

    Mom: “I don’t know.” …laughs.

    My mom actually is really nice, she’s a riot. I call her the “Rosey Show”

    See you at the Radiance Retreat in Jan!

  16. Amanda Nardo
    November 8, 2013 at 11:58 am #

    I think it’s wonderful that you are helping women to have realistic expectations of their body type, but please keep in mind that women like myself who are Ectomorph body type are not “String-beany”… your tone conveys some negativity toward that physique.

    • November 8, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

      Good point, and I’ve got nothing but love for ectos. I shall change it to “lithe” this instant.:)

      • Amanda Nardo
        November 8, 2013 at 12:47 pm #

        Thank you! As you mention, and I completely agree with you, that Ectomorph body types have the downfall of having trouble putting on fat OR muscle. I’m sure some women consider this a highly coveted body type since its usually the one plastered all over media, but I am one of the weakest female cross fitters in my gym… by a LOT. Looking forward to reading more of your work :)

  17. Sarah
    November 8, 2013 at 12:31 pm #

    Yep – sounds familiar! I’ve been an athlete my entire life playing countless sports as a kid, in high school, college and adult. My older sister is an ectomorph and always would talk about the thigh gap (just said space between her thighs back in the day) and said “means I have perfect legs.” I didn’t care – I had muscular legs and still do! (well kind of right now as I’m due with my third and last baby any day now). My legs can kick butt and I’m down with that! Thanks for posting this – and explaining not every female will have this!! And BTW…I’ve gotten many compliments about the size of my calves to go along with my thighs over the years…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:14 pm #

      I hear ya — I call my calves “cows” — proudly! 😀

    • Amanda
      June 25, 2015 at 12:57 pm #

      I’m with you! I may not have a ton of upper body strength, but don’t let me get my legs around you or you’re in trouble! I have very strong muscular legs. I’m a size 14 and yet the doctors consider me “obese” because of my weight to height ratio. But they fail to take into account the fact that muscle weighs more than fat and there’s no way to differentiate between the two. I was just built bigger, and I’m okay with that! I do need to lose a little weight, but I need to be happy with who I am.

  18. November 8, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    Not to mention that fat on your thighs (and hips) is actually the healthy kind of fat and may be protective of certain diseases!
    I’ve lost a lot of weight recently, and the first place I lose weight is my thighs. I’m one of those weird people who have a thigh gap now (not sure why, I’m certainly not an ectomorph) and when I first noticed I was not happy! I wanted to look strong and my legs were looking way too skinny compared to the rest of me. Then I learn that the fat that I don’t have (and probably never will) is the healthy kind. The stuff I have in abundance (stomach/ upper body) is the unhealthy kind. To me, this is far worse than not having a thigh gap.
    But I’m learning to love my body, I’ve been strength training and dem quadz are very visible now ;).
    I think we all need to learn to accept and work with (not against) what we’ve got. Be the best version of you, sure, but don’t compare that to anyone else.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:15 pm #

      You said it — the best version of yourself is the goal! :)

  19. November 8, 2013 at 5:17 pm #

    Im starting to get so annoyed by this ‘perfect shape’ ideal in the fitness world (so please forgive me for venting my feelings here). Fitness was about being healthy and strong, but now its as though we all should be competing for ‘miss universe (close to pornographied) ‘check how sexy I am’ ‘-titles (or the sexiest pic).
    Fitness should be about feeling great. Not about feeling insecure.

    In my opinion there should be no ideal perfect standard in fitness because, like in any other sport, it is about PERSONAL achievements and not beauty-pageants. What I love about lifting is that you focus on your own body. You learn to work it, to feed it, to care for it, to strengthen it, to love it. My work out is my ME-time; the only time I let myself go in personal vanity (looking in the mirror and thinking: “hey girl, those boring heavy pistols are really paying off!”) and -other, less shallow- personal goals. Its not about wanting to look like someone else, it’s about wanting to look like MY strong self ;). Yet even I sometimes tend to forget that when getting ‘motivated’ by looking at ‘motivational’ pics of fitness models in gyms wearing thongs (wtf is that about?).

    It’s so ironic to me, this ‘thigh-gap’ thing.. cause normally I actually feel insecure sometimes when I look at ‘ideal standard fitness bods’, wondering how I can train my legs and bum to get more bulky (“ohmy I want a big firm bum like that!”). Cause I actually HAVE the thigh gap. I have long skinny legs and a small bum (GENES!) and do double ‘leg ‘n glute- days’ because I want to be less skinny in those regions (personal goal). And now this? Suddenly my personal ‘body-trait’ is being glorified? (Gisele Bündchen suddenly has ‘the most amazing fit body’ too, apparently. There Im looking at her nudie pic thinking: “I was feeling insecure about what people suddenly think is ‘amazing and fit’? -Shoot me”)

    It just proves to me some parts of the fitness industry are as perverted like any other money-making commercialized industry (fashion, cosmetics, Hollywood). I dont trust any fitness website telling me how I should look or else I should look at my training schedule (or buy it from them to ‘look like this hot girl’).

    Again: training is working on your own body and strength. Muscles, fat, skeleton: the way it works and can be built all have to do with GENES. I’m so glad with this post Jen (and Molly); cause you’re making that perfectly clear here. Girls (women!); keep on training, know your body, don’t let the BS bring you down; It has nothing to do with our personal hard work, sweat, results, pride, pleasure and satisfaction :) :)

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:16 pm #

      YES. Fitness should be about feeling GREAT!

  20. November 8, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Jen, your post is such a welcome answer to this: http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/11/06/2902961/lululemon-thigh-gap/, which I just saw yesterday. I love how you approached this conversation from both a scientific and psychological mindset. We are all unique and beautiful. Thank you for celebrating this.
    Danielle

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:17 pm #

      Thanks, Danielle! I think it’s important to approach these issues logically.

  21. Tammy
    November 8, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    I agree. I have to laugh. My hubby says the most attractive on women are when you can see daylight, but not the whole day. haha. Just had to add that.

  22. Dar234
    November 8, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    After two years of working out and training for triathlon, just this week I noticed my thighs touching!! My legs have shape and look better than ever, and I’m getting rid of what I thought was my gap because I had boney legs!! Great article!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:18 pm #

      Congrats on your athletic achievements!

  23. Marissa
    November 9, 2013 at 10:11 am #

    I appreciate you. xoxo

  24. Marcie
    November 9, 2013 at 4:12 pm #

    Even in high school. About 60 lbs ago. I had “soccer thighs”
    I expect when i get to a healthier weight they will still be there. In all their glory!

  25. November 11, 2013 at 6:06 pm #

    This is beautiful. Thank you for showing that a thigh gap isn’t the most important thing on our bodies! I would much rather be strong, healthy and muscular than be weak and “skinny”. I have a slight thigh hap and I’m trying to fill it in!

    • someone
      November 14, 2013 at 3:14 pm #

      I am healthy, slim, strong and I have a thigh gap due to my bone structure. I cycle a lot and I run a lot. Stop generalising and associating thigh gaps with weakness. Personally, I think that my thigh gap makes me more attractive (not saying you have to feel the same though, everyone is entitled to their own opinion of what looks good).

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Thanks, Leigha! It’s definitely not the most important thing, or at all important, for that matter.

      Let’s do keep in mind that there are plenty of strong women who show the gap, too, though. It’s based on pelvic shape, tendon length and body type, not strength.

  26. November 13, 2013 at 11:50 am #

    Wonderfully put!!

  27. someone
    November 14, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    Ok, maybe thigh gaps are not the most important thing in the world, but who dictates what body parts are important “enough”? I think that we should stop being so obsessed with women’s bodies in general.

    With that said, I am one of the people who think that thigh gaps are attractive, but since i have one myself I am probably biased. However, I didn’t have one until I started running and cycling and became more fit.

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

      Thigh gaps are attractive. So are the lack of thigh gaps.:)

  28. Lindsey
    November 15, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    This post is great…..BUT I think you should be mindful that SOME ladies will have a gap no matter what; basically, shaming those who are naturally quite thin, or just who naturally have skinny legs, is not cool. Love all bodies! All healthy, well-fed bodies are good!!!

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

      Hi, Lindsey,
      We are in fully agreement — ALL healthy, well-fed bodies are good. Which is why this post has not a thing to do with shaming anyone. A couple excerpts:

      Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

      It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”

  29. November 17, 2013 at 9:34 am #

    Wow, I think this is a great post and I think you did a good job of not disparaging anyone, but just reminding us that it’s more than diet and exercise that determine how a woman’s body looks, and more so, there are a myriad of ways to be healthy and beautiful. As someone who once struggled with an eating disorder, the whole thigh gap thing used to be on my mind a lot and now I try not to compare myself to other women when it comes to that. I found that once I started recovering and using food and exercise to my advantage (i.e. eating and eating well and exercising for pleasure not punishment), my body fell into a comfortable, healthy weight that I kind of really love. I don’t know what I weigh but I know I’m more comfortable in my own skin now than I ever was.

  30. November 18, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    Oh man I’d been dreaming of closing my thigh gap for years! I’m about as ectomorphic as you could possibly imagine and it was a huge goal of mine.

    70 pounds later I finally closed it … and started having to repair/replace my jeans every few months 😛

  31. November 18, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    Also, what part of the pelvic bone are people prodding with their fingers up there? I’m anatomically feeling really stupid right now. Am I supposed to be able to fit a couple fingers into some part of it to figure out which type of pelvis I have?

  32. Lori
    November 27, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

    Anyone who spends any time wondering or worrying about whether they have a thigh gap or not or how to get one probably either a) is 13 years old and/or b) really needs to get a life…volunteering with less fortunate people, homeless animals, or something else that actually adds meaning to her life. Really.

  33. December 11, 2013 at 11:33 am #

    Hey Jen, this is great. I’ve taking a short “leave of absence” from training after I made a decision to give more education + more support. Which means I get to do more research + more writing. I’ve been following you a long time, + look – you came up in my research about this – ‘the thigh gap”. Thanks for putting out great content + being fun to follow on social medai too.

  34. December 17, 2013 at 7:04 pm #

    LOVE! Thanks so much for putting in the time and energy to research this…

  35. Gonvis
    January 13, 2014 at 12:43 pm #

    http://ixellian.be/716/mind-the-thigh-gap/

    Thanks for being a positive, inspirational figure for us teens! x

  36. January 22, 2014 at 10:37 am #

    The thigh gap is something that I mentally struggled with all through high school and early adult hood. It took a lot of self love to reach a point where I said this is my body, these are my genes, and this is what I have to work with. Obesity runs rampant in my family. Even myself I worked my way down from 250 lbs to 149 lbs (I’m 5’9). It wasn’t about getting skinny anymore or seeking some media idea of what I should look like, it was about health and strength. Having lost so much weight though while my thighs don’t have a gap I don’t get the chaffing and rawness from it anymore. Even with all the mental work I’ve done accepting myself I still need to read these kinds of articles though. Thank you so much for helping those of us blessed in the thigh region feel at peace with what we have.

  37. Courtney
    January 31, 2014 at 5:40 pm #

    I have the thigh gap because I’ve got the naturally skinny body type and it sucks it’s so hard to gain any muscle and I want this thigh gap out of my life

  38. Holly
    February 8, 2014 at 3:05 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and I absolutely hate it, my legs don’t touch at all and I think they look disgusting. I can’t seem to put on any fat on my thighs and everyone at school ‘wants a thigh gap so bad’ where as I would do literally anything to have legs that touch in the middle and be curvy like everyone else. I hate my thigh gap, and get quite annyoed at the hype about them.

  39. Julie
    March 2, 2014 at 2:09 pm #

    How about we embrace our natural healthy bodies? I do not, nor never will (even being at the healthiest I have ever been) have a thigh gap and love my body as it was made to be. TRULY healthy, which admittedly looks different for every body, should be our goal.

  40. Mya
    March 2, 2014 at 10:17 pm #

    Who every decided that thigh gaps were a desirable trait? I have NEVER heard anyone accept women worry bout having a thigh gap. Like where did this even start? I was on tumblr for the first time last year and I was hit in the face with nothing but people asking me how I obtained my thigh gap and I’m like wtf? I was born this way? Like people are staving themselves to look like bean poles. I just don’t get it. I hope that fad dies out.

  41. Jill
    March 5, 2014 at 5:55 pm #

    I want less muscle toned and more from fat but I can’t gain any weight on my thighs, it all goes to my stomach to the point where I have skinny legs but a gut that makes me look pregnant. How do I avoid that?

    • Irene
      March 12, 2014 at 9:36 am #

      The stomach is a bit of problem for me too. The worst thing is wearing hip huger pants which accentuate the tummy. Look for pants with a true waist (almost impossible to find these days).

  42. Jennifer
    March 11, 2014 at 4:54 am #

    i dont understand why i have thigh gaps naturally and my friends is pretty jealous of me. is it possibly because of genetics?but my aunts and mom dont really have it.mine is more obvious.im tired of how people say im lucky to have it and they are so jealous of me.what’s so good about thigh gaps? i dont understand why people is so desperate about thigh gaps…ugh

  43. Irene
    March 12, 2014 at 9:11 am #

    I naturally have thigh gap and have always hated it. I have been picked on and degraded about being “skinny” all my life. Why is it okay for someone to call me skinny, but it is not okay for me to call them fat? At 5′ 3″, 118 lbs. I have a nice figure (36D naturally), exercise, eat healthy, take no medications and the thigh gap is still there. And I’m 70 years old!

    • March 12, 2014 at 10:42 am #

      Irene, re: your question about why one is OK and the other isn’t, I would argue that it ISN’T OK for someone to pick on you about your size. It isn’t cool going either direction.

      • Irene
        March 12, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

        Thanks, Jen. I always wanted to ask that question. Enjoy your day.

  44. Ashley
    March 20, 2014 at 12:23 am #

    This is so awesome!!! I never ever heard of a thigh gap until a friend of mine got in a fight with he boyfriend over something and he had asked name 3 things I’ve said that make you feel bad about your image. One of them was if her legs touched he would make her not eat as much junk food and hit the gym. I’m like what the hell is that about so I asked my boyfriend and he told me about the thigh gap. Fortunate for her she can achieve this some what healthily. Yet why the hell does it matter if your thighs touch or not. I have never heard if a guy getting upset over a thigh gap before. After reading this I’m happy with my legs and my thighs and I’m blessed to have a man who doesn’t give a crap about whether or not my thighs touch. This whole thing is crazy!!! I would total send a picture if I had Facebook! Let’s get some women to see that having a thigh gap is totally crazy! Thanks for this!

  45. Linda
    March 20, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    Thank you! I am a natural stick person and I’ve been terribly self-conscious about it my whole life, feeling like I have to prove that I’m not a bitch or anorexic to strangers all the time. And feeling embarrassed for my boyfriend. My lack of hips and bottom half curves have always made me feel like a boy or less than a woman, exacerbated by “curvy vs. thing” BS “debate.” Body types should not be a bipartisan issue. Thankfully, I’ve gotten over this quite a bit. Humor is the best aid, it ain’t my fault I’m a pooping machine from a lanky Russian g-pa and petite Irish g-ma.

    I used to make the joke that everyone wants to cuddle up to sharp right angles…however after just now learning about this “trend” from the Colbert Report and doing some social media investigation, I see “sharp 90 degree angles” could be hash tagged as “thinspo” or “perfection.” WHAT?!

    Watching the Colbert Report I was forehead slapping with an open jaw. I’ve always been embarrassed by the fact that my legs are sticks that don’t touch, opting for pants and dresses that create the illusion of more meat.

    Of course, it’s the grass is always greener conundrum. But at the same time us women should help each to realize that unrealistic goals like being so skinny or always looking young are perpetuated precisely because they are unattainable. Making an insatiable appetite for consuming products. Put simpler, it’s all about making money and we women need to remember we are not tool bags!!! Starting first with not feeding into ANY discussion or “debate” on what is the right, healthy or ideal body-type unless it’s with a medical professional.

    Women power to ALL skeletal structures!

  46. Allison
    March 30, 2014 at 4:15 pm #

    Love this info! I was laughing so hard at Dem Quadz. My confidence has sky rocketed since finding such strong, inspirational women to look up to. Thanks for all you do!

  47. Joni
    April 1, 2014 at 1:40 pm #

    I really appreciate this article. I am an ectomorph so I am naturally very thin and have a thigh gap. I never even noticed it until all this craze about thigh gaps started going around. I hate when people envy my body shape just because it is the current fad. I fully believe in being the healthiest you can be and being happy with your unique shape! A thigh gap or lack there of doesn’t make you beautiful – you ARE beautiful and need to accept that. Let’s focus on celebrating and encouraging each other and not envying :-).

    • July 16, 2014 at 12:35 pm #

      That’s exactly it — so much to celebrate, regardless of shape or size!

  48. a
    April 23, 2014 at 12:07 pm #

    I’m glad you mentioned skeletal structure but I am very disappointed that you didn’t mention the other standing positions. If you’re knock kneed or bow legged that also would effect weather you could get a gap or not. Also not all people are muscular and get very bulky from exercise. There are many different factors.

  49. Irene
    April 23, 2014 at 2:22 pm #

    I am so glad I looked at this site again. I guess I was born with this thigh gap and it will remain forever. Thanks to all who chimed in. I am now inspired to feel good about my thin legs. A long beach vacation is coming soon and I am going to feel just fine in a swimsuit. Here’s a tip for my thigh gap sisters: When being photographed in shorts or a swimsuit stand sideways toward the person taking the picture, then turn 1/4 turn toward them. Presto! Perfect legs. Try it in front of a full length mirror. You will be surprised how well this works. Enjoy your summer.

  50. Confused Person
    April 23, 2014 at 5:46 pm #

    But how do you CLOSE the gap. Haha, that’s what I was looking up. Good essay.. If you have any exercises on how to close it… That would be great.

  51. Irene
    April 23, 2014 at 7:34 pm #

    I don’t think you are ever going to close the gap if you were born with it unless you become a fatty overnight and then you will have worse problems. Just deal with it and enjoy this moment when the body obsessed are wishing they had it. Those that threw negative comments your way will now have to eat their words. You are perfect just the way you are!!!

  52. Sherri
    May 27, 2014 at 12:17 pm #

    I love the article. I am 45. I am strong, somewhat athletic, I walk, workout and golf a lot. I eat healthy and have great legs so my husband says. My thighs have rubbed and chaffed all my life. I have used powder and worse leggings and shorts under dresses since I was a teenager. When I was pregnant with my first child my doc told me I was lucky my pelvis was shaped that way since I would have an easier time with delivery. I delivered a very healthy 91/2 lb baby in 3 hours. So I guess he was right and 4 years later had a 8 lb baby in 1.5 hours. I haven’t complained about thighs rubbing every again. We are all different and should be happy to be different.

  53. Bethany
    June 12, 2014 at 8:16 pm #

    How do I get rid of my thigh gap! I’m 16 years old & I hate it! I’ve never really been able to put on any weight anywhere, except my tummy!

  54. June 25, 2014 at 4:46 pm #

    OMG I LOVE THIS. Thank you thank you thank you:)
    Peace!

  55. Allyssa
    July 4, 2014 at 7:32 pm #

    Im a Filipino. Before im so insecure to those have a thigh gaps.

    Haha but now im so happy to know this fact 😀

  56. Ashley
    July 16, 2014 at 12:23 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and we have measured and I have just as big of thighs as all my friends who don’t have thigh gaps. I was born with it but I still have curves and a nice body it’s really not fair for women who aren’t happy with their fat bodies to bash on girls who can’t help the way they are built. Everyone was made in Gods image so tennically we are all perfect.

    • July 16, 2014 at 12:36 pm #

      Ashley,
      You just said it yourself. It’s about bone structure and body type, and celebrating ALL builds.

      From the post: “To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

  57. d
    July 26, 2014 at 11:24 am #

    i had a thigh gap, but i have gained weight, and i am currently losing it. HOw do i cope with this?

  58. Chelsea
    August 4, 2014 at 11:17 am #

    I LOVED this article. I have received so much criticism from my own mother about how I should have a thigh gap and that my thighs shouldn’t rub together. I am happy with my body-sure, I might have gained a few extra pounds lately-but i cannot ever remember when my thighs didn’t rub together.

    Basically I am wondering if you have any suggestions for me as to how I can tell my mother that not having a thigh gap is normal and that I shouldn’t strive to have one…? It’s super demeaning to hear constantly that I’m fat and it’s not normal for my thighs to rub together. Do you know of any other research that I could send to her to help her realize that I am beautiful the way I am?

    Thank you for your wonderful article!

  59. Karyn
    August 27, 2014 at 6:26 pm #

    I happen to like a ‘no-calf-gap’ on a man because I love a set of chunky, muscular calves, but for some reason I have been unable to find any information or articles at all. Ah, the ridiculous pressures of being a woman.

  60. Robina
    August 28, 2014 at 5:16 am #

    loved your article

  61. Alice
    August 29, 2014 at 1:05 pm #

    Some girls are super lucky the ones without a gap! i have a thigh gap and no matter how much i eat i can’t put on the weight and its the same with my brother. our parents think we are anorexic but we are not. Our bodies are just like that. and we have small stomachs so we can’t eat alot.

  62. Afshin Nejat
    October 16, 2014 at 7:08 am #

    More proof that the intrigues of the eunuchs is designed to influence the annals of power in society in such a way as to foment strife between men and woman, between races between nations, between classes, and between man and nature.

    This is an issue that goes deeper than typical human comprehension can go. Just like snoring is evil, incongruence in the typification of ideals in the real world, is also. It’s occurrence is more frequent than we’d like to admit, these things. These often viewed and treated as deformities which are unbecoming or unpreferred, or as exaggerated excellencies which people envy rather than detest. Such are both physical and psychological, and in between, neuroanatomical.

    The twist in all this is that there are some simple facts. Some features of human anatomy are probably more correct when correlated with a particular sex and gender. Pear-shaped women without thigh-gaps are more feminine and female in nature, and that is a fact in their preponderance with the majority of women, and with their significant association with traits of gynogeny which are understood to be prototypically female because directly causally associated with female reproductive and care-giving roles in human ecobiology.

    What happens is that dysmorphias occur, so that a certain amount of “dysplasias” do occur, a term used already in sciences, but which William H. Sheldon used specifically in terms of the way that in nature we find some traits that are abnormal for the specimen, and which run against the grain of its general character, which character was called a “somatotype”.

    Female somatotypes generally are endomorphic with some ectomorphy in areas, and a softened and more delicate mesomorphy throughout. Andromorhpic traits do present in an average female but only dysplastically with regard to the general framework of the somatotype, and of course we would find corresponding and inverse dysplasias in male specimens.

    It turns out that (heterosexal) men are far less interested in the issue than are heterosexual women and homosexual men. Probably homosexual females care less than heterosexual females. But I would venture that if men generally found one to be “more feminine” than the other, he’d favor the relative lack of a gap between the thighs at any and all points between them, at least where structure is concerned.

    The subconscious implications of a “gap” between the thighs, if I am correct, is far more interesting to the mind of heterosexual men than the psychologically fixated issue of the structural features they are taken to represent in a more “verbal” way (as in “to move apart” or to “gape”). The lack of a gap is just as likely, if not more to solicit a gape, or a gasp, in the mind, pulse, and breathing patterns of a physically and mentally healthy heterosexual male, while not inversely true: The comparative lack of preference FOR a gap (where the lack of it is actually noted as desirable), is probably not likely to ever become a conscious issue for a man in a “negative” since. He will almost never, throughout his life, say to himself “Hmm, SHE doesn’t have a gap here, but SHE does… I find (one or the other) more attractive”. Not until now, since the “powers that be”, who also design clothes, control and disseminate various cultural media (including anything to do with style and beauty), have somehow stirred up this “hornet’s nest” for all to behold through “twitterings” and “hashtaggings” (very “L.A.” sort of cultural trend), and all sorts of electronic venues on the internet.

    This whole situation is overweeningly gay. Anyway, love those pin-up girls from the olden days!

  63. Taylor
    November 13, 2014 at 1:17 pm #

    Hey, I’d just like to say that I really appreciate that you’re not hating on how the thigh gap looks. I do have one, and I’ve read many articles that say that it just looks bad anyway… I personally I’m not a fan of how it looks and wish I had a bit more meat on my bones. But I appreciate that you’re not saying that it looks bad, just that it’s not what makes a girl beautiful. I think a lot of girls need to find contentment in being healthy instead of yearning for what they don’t have. I’m working toward that now :)

    • Afshin Nejat
      November 13, 2014 at 10:12 pm #

      Right. It is not a specifically pressing issue for a truly Spiritual Person. Spiritual People don’t overly identify with their bodies. Bodies are loci of experience which are, by and large, painful and damaging to the persons connected with them. Trends in nature seem to set up a trap so that disparities are bound to occur, and a single being is/must become burdened with these. Nature, the evil force that it is, cares not at all for such errors, and doesn’t correct them. Only people correct them or correct for them. In the end, even this cannot last long without causing suffering in some form.

      A Real Person is first a Person, and this is a Spiritual Substance. It is always only secondarily a body, as bodies are simply expressive foci of the Spiritual Intention of the person. In this universe bodies are not properly correlated to the Best and Highest potentials of the Spiritual Persons which are connected with them. There is no point “hating” a specific type of body or bodily condition, especially not when we know a valued and valid Person may be connected with that condition. It is cruel and unjust.

      Nevertheless, it is occurring. In the time it is happening people should adapt so as to console themselves and each other that it is not permanent, and that a morally proper solution to all this can be discovered. If one is to adapt psychologically in a healthy way to these conditions while enduring them, it is best to revert one’s consciousness toward all things back into something more like that of a prepubescent child. That’s what all the valid Spiritual Teachings enjoin people to do.

  64. Calypso
    December 1, 2014 at 2:02 am #

    Haha thanks for this! I’m in middle school… 7th grade infact! And me and one of my best friends are runners. Well my best friend has a thigh gap and I don’t so one day a person walked up to me and said (another runner by the way) “your not ever going to be good at running! You don’t have a thigh gap!” Well, me and another un-thigh gaped friend (another runner) sure showed them when we beat them in the next competion! Just goes to show…… You can do anything no matter what you look like because how you feel is really all that matters!

    • Karyn
      December 24, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

      That’s awesome, Calypso.

  65. bulky1
    December 4, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

    Frankly I can’t understand this gap crap. I think personally it’s disgusting. :s It’s gross. If you have a gap that’s bad. I mean you can have huge legs and still have a health gap so I just can’t understand why so many women girls whatever want this. Thin gross skinny legs 😛 blah … plz plz get some meat on you. Look all you have to do is not strut around all day looking nice sit yo ass at home once in a while doing squats and leg lunges and stretch feel good feel sexy .. Thus you will be sexy. feeling sexy is key. Mens loves meat.

    Nice buns and thick thick thighs :3 Mmmmm. Yeah. If you don’t believe me go up to any man and you see some thick booty bitch around point out to her and he’ll be talking to you in 1 second flat. My word. .. Now why because GUYS are all about shape 😉 And the size of the shape. We like to put them together and fit them in places see if this works there or doesn’t yeah guess it’s the whole having a stick thing. It’s in our nature and if YOU.. ladies can’t deal then why the pardon me are you here in the first place? Deal get real.

    If you can dig follow this then you get it if not you haven’t been never will be there. So forget this and move on as you’ll never get thick if you can’t get that.

  66. bulky1
    December 4, 2014 at 3:04 pm #

    Afshin Nejat… Uh Wrong. The body is the vessel in which the energy is carried it means if and even more than. It’s your reparations of that which lays in you. Young health vital vibrant then that is what lays within. As is above is below. It means also as in is without. What’s out lays within. Don’t give me that crap about beauty and the beast stuff that was trickery and such which is a false giving to be true to others and show the true self without any other thought or forgiving. Just baring your inside on the out is true self. Jesus huh was one there were many before him just in different ways in which they did so. Though many can’t sustain such a presence for very long. I had. For about a year.

    It takes massive amounts of energy to command such a will. To bend your space and time around you and this world. The universe… Starting to get the picture. That means both neg and positive energy neg being the expense of that being created. There must always be. There is no good without the bad. In which way you defuse such neg energy is the choice you have to make. Mine was running and another method along side that while running. Also while creating good positive feed back. Making memories thoughts that would charge me .. Nothing neg – bad was to be let in if you can do that you can create your own place. Your world .. your universe .. now tell me that doesn’t take massive amounts of time and space.

    So next time your out and see someone strutting about they are most likely one of such character .. try going up to them and talking to them. You’ll be surprised.

  67. Chris
    December 21, 2014 at 12:10 pm #

    Great article. It’s the comments I’m struggling with. Some want the gap and others do not. Everyone, go look in the mirror and love what you see.

  68. January 6, 2015 at 6:58 pm #

    How do we know what type of pelvic structure we have? I’m trying to find balance and alignment and trying to understand why my left adductors aren’t quite as toned as my right? X could if be due to a pelvic tilt? X ps:

  69. January 6, 2015 at 6:59 pm #

    Ps* I’m so pleased ive found this page x thankyou

  70. Ceci
    January 31, 2015 at 1:46 pm #

    I have a large thigh gap (about 2 inches when I’m standing feet together, and it’s completely natural) and while it looks fantastic on me, it’s also kind of inconvenient. I can’t sit down in a short dress without flashing everyone! It matters not what your thighs or even the rest of your body looks like as long as you, the owner of it, likes it and you’re healthy. What isn’t good for anyone is saying that “real men only like thick girls” because that’s not true. What a man likes depends on what that individual likes. Just because a someone is thin doesn’t make her any less of a woman compared to any other woman. What’s important to women, men, and society as a whole is to love thyself as one would like to be loved.

  71. Sassy
    February 9, 2015 at 12:19 pm #

    It’s easy for women with thigh gaps to criticize and make fun of women without. But it’s a real problem for some of us – especially Black women – who have touching thighs. For one, there is an excessive amount of melanin production there leaving us with unsightly and embarrassing black inner thighs. It also makes our girly bits extremely black as well. Not to mention lots of chaffing especially when we sweat. Yes there are creams and other ‘remedies’ out there but honestly? those are just more routines to add to our already existing ones. So I say it would be just wonderful if I had a thigh gap and in fact am currently researching cosmetic solutions.

  72. Nikki
    February 14, 2015 at 10:04 am #

    I started wanting to have thigh gaps this year , I heard from my bro that thigh gap will make girls much prettier . Ever since then I kept checking if a girl has thigh gap and ALOT of my friends has it which makes me think I’m fat . But I went for research and they said you would have a higher chance of having thigh gaps if your hips is wider . My body type is mesomorph ! Idk why but when I read about it , I feel proud ! HAHAHAAA it was weird for me but now I stop being obsessing over thigh gaps ! Thank you so much !

  73. Jay Lane
    March 5, 2015 at 11:23 am #

    Jen, I really enjoyed your article. You’ve done a very well job at conducting a nearly 100% unbiased work of art that I believe every woman who is struggling with their self image should read. However, you’ve brought to life, I think, a negative connotation to having thigh gap. I’d like to take a moment to say my girlfriend of 8 years, to whom I bore child with, has a thigh-gap and she thinks it’s “unsexy”. Regardless of whether or not I find it sexy is beside the point. What I want to point out is that she thinks it’s unsexy because of the “#close the gap” movement. The movement shouldn’t have that affect on any girl. Instead of it promoting self-love and appreciation, it’s promoting a flame war between the two extremes. “If you have a thigh gap you’re attractive/ if you have thigh gap you’re unattractive.” These extremes shouldn’t exist, but the “#close the gap” gives life to these extremes and cultivates them. I feel, you shouldn’t fight “girl power” with “girl power” it’s not a good way to win a war and it only results in unnecessary casualties. I applaud what you’ve written, and am very supportive of both sides, everyone has a right to be proud of who they are, but not at the expense of someone else. I move to have the movement renamed: “Love yourself” (add a hash-tag if you’d like).

    • March 5, 2015 at 11:48 am #

      Jay,
      I agree that thigh gaps are cool, non-thigh gaps are cool. I’m not trying to pit either side against the other. The hashtag is just a word play on the common phrase “close the gap.”

      See these excerpts from the post:

      -“To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

      -“I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.”

      -“Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — ‘loving what is.'”

      My point was to point out that this isn’t a goal that is feasible for everyone, and to not let your self-worth be wrapped up in it one way OR the other. Apologies for any confusion — we are on the same page.:)

      • Jay Lane
        March 5, 2015 at 12:32 pm #

        Jen,
        Thank you for responding and honestly, I might be portraying my point in the wrong light and to the wrong person. You are not the enemy; you’ve reinforced my beliefs on the matter 100%. My issue with the “#close the gap” isn’t necessarily governable; but when someone, with or without a thigh gap, bullies someone, with or without a thigh gap, the only result is pain and a question of one’s self-worth. I am only trying to convey that message: love yourself, stop bullying. And, I understand that you, and I, have already made that point and in no way do I think we have differentiating stances on the matter. But I felt those exact words, in that exact manner needed to be said: “love yourself.” As W. Shakespeare once said, “To gap or not to gap, it really isn’t up to us.” Thanks again.

      • Jay Lane
        March 5, 2015 at 1:15 pm #

        Jen,
        I’ve been reading the comments, and your responses, and it only affirms what I thought about you; you’re the voice of reason in this flame war. Thank you, for everything you’ve said and done to try and mediate between the two sides. I appreciate it.

        • March 24, 2015 at 11:20 am #

          Thank you, Jay! Very much appreciated.:) Shouldn’t even be two sites pitted against each other – all bodies are good bodies!

  74. Abigael
    March 5, 2015 at 5:23 pm #

    I try to be happy with the way I look and I’m content with everything except my thighs. My thigh gap is too big; not enough thighs. I don’t like going in public wearing jeans and I usually wear skirts or dresses to hide my skinny legs the best I can. I can’t find my size anywhere and I don’t like to wear tight pants that will show how skinny I am, but I can’t wear baggy clothes either, it doesn’t look good at all. I thought this article was interesting, even though it wasn’t what I was looking for. I’ve been working on making my thighs bigger, and I’ve been searching for tips and tricks, but I’ve found nothing so far. Any advice?

  75. sarah
    March 17, 2015 at 6:49 am #

    I have a thigh gap does that mean i have a loose vagina ?

    • March 17, 2015 at 12:56 pm #

      Ummmm, nope! This post attracts the dangedest questions….:)

  76. March 17, 2015 at 10:02 pm #

    Regarding the woman who asked if “thigh gap” meant lax (loose) vagina; although a separate matter, it is also an important one. Weak perineal muscles can mean everything from urinary incontinence, to lessened sexual pleasure (for the woman, and her partner), to a diminished sense of personal power. No thanks. She may wish to get herself a set of “jade eggs” (large, medium and small; one progresses from using the larger, to the smaller, with practice), for doing effective internal exercises, or perhaps the”vaginal barbell”. Each woman has her preference, for what works best for her. The improvements (and the pleasure of having a “firm handshake”) are so wonderful, functionally and in restoration of self-confidence.

  77. isobel
    March 23, 2015 at 11:21 am #

    I have a thigh gap, I wasnt exactly sure what one was. mines totally natural. is it a bad thing? I was in pe and this girl ran past me and said ‘Thigh Gap’. I thought this was said in a bad way. so I looked into it. im still not sure…

    • March 24, 2015 at 11:19 am #

      Isobel,
      You are absolutely perfect exactly as you are. <3

  78. WWW
    March 30, 2015 at 4:55 am #

    my personal experience.
    I have everything this fashion world wants nowadays. I have collar bones,thigh gap, clear abs, bikini bridge, even have very toned arms. I am tall and size 2US or 0US from high street brands ex. Gap. but not at all underweight as I have only around 16% bodyfat and muscle actually weigh much more then fat. sounds prefect right? and be jealous, I am in my 30’s and I get them effortlessly even though I do workout regularly for health but not to try to get all these.
    I do love my body because it is my own but the truth is, I never get any special attention because I ticked all the fashion boxes and I am not seen specially prettier then the other girls who don’t have all these “conditions”.. in the real world, no one is going to exam you in details to judge you. They look at you as a total package, and appreciate your own beauty if you show it.
    Whoever likes me, likes the way I am. whoever don’t, just don’t.. It is never because I have gap or bridge or whatever.

  79. Carolyn
    March 30, 2015 at 10:16 am #

    I used to be overweight (around 220 pounds). After spending 5 years losing the weight, I just acquired the thigh gap (not caring/not wanting/not attempting to achieve it). It just happened. I’m glad you can embrace your non-thigh gap, but any suggestions to close the thigh gap is still negatively suggesting that having one is bad. We are all built differently, and we can’t help what structure we end up with. I say…just be thankful you have legs, the end.

    • March 30, 2015 at 5:22 pm #

      Carolyn, I agree that it matters ZERO whether you have one or don’t.

      Thigh gaps are cool, non-thigh gaps are cool. I’m not trying to pit either side against the other. The hashtag is just a word play on the common phrase “close the gap.”

      See these excerpts from the post:

      -“To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

      -“I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.”

      -“Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — ‘loving what is.’”

      My point was to point out that this isn’t a goal that is feasible for everyone, and to not let your self-worth be wrapped up in it one way OR the other. Apologies for any confusion — we are on the same page.:)

  80. Nick
    April 1, 2015 at 8:03 am #

    Total madness, this fad. Well, any body-aspiration other than to be fit and healthy is madness, from slimming to body-building for the sake of it (as opposed to getting stronger for some goal). But this is just… weird. Like the ancient practice in China of breaking young girls’ foot bones to stunt the growth of their feet. It’s just self-harm.

  81. Angela
    April 7, 2015 at 2:21 pm #

    Glad I ran across this web page, I was getting ready for bed the other night my daughter commented to me that I have a leg gap.I had never heard of anyone saying that before. So when I was researching it I came across this and it is very informational.

  82. Christi
    April 7, 2015 at 2:54 pm #

    I have a thigh gap as due to my anatomical structure and I do everything I can to try to close it I think it looks horrible these people are crazy trying to have one. Embrace your thighs because I wish I had them

  83. April 11, 2015 at 10:37 am #

    I have been waiting alllll my life to read something like this!

    I’m 25, and since I lost my baby-fat at age 4, I’ve been thin/lithe. According to your diagram, I’m clearly an ectomorph, but I literally had no idea that “thigh gaps” were such an envied thing.

    My comments are mostly about ectomorphism. I remember growing up and having my peers/adults tell me that I’m too skinny, or I’m anorexic or saying I need to put more meat on my bones. In grade 7 and 8 when other girls were filling out, I was still thin and boyish. I vividly remember a curvy/athletic girl screaming “evil knees” at me when I wore shorts to school one day. I didn’t understand until I noticed almost everyone else’s knees touched and they didn’t have a space between their legs.

    Back then I didn’t see all the comments as bullying. They were annoying yes, but I didn’t realize how they were quietly whittling away at my self esteem. Even at 25 I get a lot of “omg, do you even eat” comments, and even though I eat way more than most people to stay fit and retain what muscle I have, its pretty pointless arguing/standing up for myself to people who don’t listen or can’t see past my figure. Its rude to talk about someone’s weight who is overweight..but when did it become okay to comment negatively about someone of a smaller weight/frame?

    My mother played a big part in how my self-esteem went down the toilet. Always telling me I needed to eat more, restricting what clothes I wore if it showed too much of my arms/legs and pretty much shaming me for being so skinny. I remember her telling me what weight I should be, what size clothing I should be wearing, and constantly buying me things “to grow into”. But it never happened. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that I said enough was enough and started doing what I wanted to do and wearing what I wanted to wear in spite of what people said or how they looked at me. I dress fairly conservatively anyways, so I really don’t see why some individuals act so offended when they see a thin person enjoying their thinness.

    We read a lot about women not wanting to be bullied for their weight or curves; fat-shaming they call it. And I agree, it IS wrong. But to reinforce their point, they start attacking thin women. I’ve seen countless pictures/memes with the words “men like curves, dogs like bones”. How did that become okay? To the young girls who are naturally thin, what does that say to them? How are they going to react?

    I will agree, some women (in the fashion industry, for example) are too thin, to the point that its unhealthy for them. Society/the media has had a hand in warping minds to believe that skinny is what’s beautiful. But society doesn’t (or shouldn’t) have the power to dictate what’s right and wrong. It should be our responsibility to empower/teach our children and not let them be swayed by whatever the media is spitting out. So the thigh gap is the latest fad? So be it. Just like any other fad, it will fade away. Some naturally have it, others don’t. Some may achieve it, but others won’t even bother trying. I DIDN’T want mine for the longest time…but there isn’t anything I can do about it. And I’m okay with that. I’m healthy, and that’s what is important.

    So thank you, Jen for this article! I’ve re-gained some of my self-esteem from reading this and some of the comments.

    • Amanda
      July 31, 2015 at 3:22 pm #

      Jodi,

      I had a friend like you when I was younger. Her and I were on the opposite spectrum. While she was a size zero rail, and the rest of our friends were 2’s and 4’s, here I was in my most active days a size 7. I have always just been a little bit bigger. For a long time I have looked down on myself as being fat. The Doctors say I’m obese, but a lot of my mass is muscle. I do gain weight in the mid section VERY easily. But the rest of me is very muscular. I think many more women than we think are self conscious of their size their weight, what they look like, hair color, latest trends. I have started a very personal campaign. I always say that each one of us has a super power and we do. We hold the power to build up and the power to tear down:
      Proverbs 12:16
      The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them.
      Proverbs 16:24
      Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.

      And so I do my best to pay a compliment to at LEAST one woman per day. No matter their size shape or color. I compliment their hair, their skin tone their clothes or make up or even just the fact that they are beautiful. We hold the power along with every other woman to change the way we feel about ourselves, but also each other. We have the opportunity to fight these industry relevant mindsets by showing them that we are beautiful women and that we don’t care what they think. The more we don’t care, the less men will care too. Each man was made for a specific taste for a specific woman (yes I believe in soulmates) and they let themselves follow an industry to chase after what is popular rather than what they truly desire or think is beautiful. If we fight that industry “standard” we are not only fighting for ourselves, but for them too.

  84. jflh
    April 18, 2015 at 11:29 am #

    Always thought something was wrong with me because no matter how much weight i drop there’s these monster thighs, they must love me because they don’t want to go away. This article definitely made me feel better about myself

  85. Shell
    May 5, 2015 at 5:19 pm #

    No gap here! Frankly I’m quite happy because my legs don’t get as sore when I’m riding ;P
    ;P

  86. Loving This!
    May 13, 2015 at 9:41 pm #

    This article is everything women, young and old, need in this day and age. We are all too focused on gaps and not enough on just being healthy and happy. Mostly I’d love to send this to my jerk of an ex bf who would always want me to lose weight and have a thigh gap. He even followed a YouTube person who had gap day and would post pics of girls with thigh gaps once a week. It sickened me and made me feel horrible. No surprise he’s single now. Thank you for this. Even though it’s something I knew on a basic level, it’s nice to hear.

  87. Ashley
    May 14, 2015 at 11:42 pm #

    I am twenty now, but when I was just 16 my supposed “best friends” told me that even though my boobs were a disappointment (as a late developer I was at the time barely fitting into a 12A) at least I had nice legs with a thigh gap. For the next three years I spent half my time worrying over the state of my chest, and the other half trying to keep that “perfect” shape to my legs. Throughout high school all that I ever seemed to hear was people telling me that I wouldn’t be happy unless I kept to my perfect weight (at the time barely 50kg) but had bigger boobs so I could find a “boyf”.
    I’m now slowly coming to terms with my weight at 66kg, and the fact that I will never be bigger then a 12B (throwing out my booster bras was the first step!). I workout regularly and haven’t seen a gap between my thighs in over 12months.
    I wish that I had found a cause like this in my high school years, and hope that it will help change the lives of all young girls.

  88. Meghan
    May 16, 2015 at 7:31 am #

    Hello, I have a thigh gap and it’s not making me a better person. You people need to realize a thigh gap is a serious problem if you have one. First of all people call you skinny and chicken legs. Second, people think your starving yourself. But this is all because you have a natural thigh gap, but your perfectly healthy. But if you don’t have a thigh gap and you really want one, I’d reconsider because your only making your body unhealthy. If you have no problem gaining muscle and fat, congrats! Your just the type of person I need to be. I am a athlete and I need more muscle tone and I don’t need a thigh gap getting in the way of toning my thighs. The “thigh gap” has made me a horrible person. If you want one reconsider for me. People may just call you weakling, chicken legs, and so forth. Go for a more it muscle toned body, its what natural humans are going for anyways. If you have a muscle toned body your way healthier and you have a very decreased chance of deathly diseases later in life. So go for the muscles not the chicken legs.

  89. sanna
    May 16, 2015 at 10:41 am #

    I’m really upset because of thigh gap n knees gap.. how can I reduce the thigh gap and knees gap?

  90. www
    May 17, 2015 at 1:30 pm #

    this is for JODI actually.. if you “unfortunately” still stay very thin after 30 or even more, the larger people will attack you not only your health, beauty, attraction etc but also your personality, family, life style etc lol ex. skinny after certain age means you are a mean person while they are laid back and nice so gain weight naturally; being skinny after certain age makes face look older and uglier (which is so not true btw) or pick up any of your life styles or family problems which everyone has some in life..but to them everything can be explained to be the cause of you being skinning(in the bad way), the worse is, when they see you eating pizzas, burgers, they suspect and discuss about you being bulimia at your back…..
    but well, I can totally understand and have a laugh at it now, main part of reasons for all these attacks, bullies and body shaming are out of jealousy we can not deny no matter how hard people try to value “curves”, by far being skinny still get much more recognitions as beauty in the world, you can easily see from fashion, tv, movies, magazines.. and in another way, it is true that lots of people choose to be skinny and force themselves to stay so through an unhealthy way which shouldn’t be encouraged while it is very rare that anyone would force themselves to become very big.it is not really by choice normally… that is why people feel so free that they can bully or body shaming skinny people publicly while they won’t do the same to the larger people.. they don’t want to accept that some people are just so skinny naturally.
    and another thing I have been wanting to say is being bigger does’t mean being curvier if the tummy is as big as boobs!! it is another way of being straight up and down but in a much larger scale lol… what curvy means is ex. SKINNY Scarlett Johansson in dress size 2-4US but with a DD cup! :))

  91. Nathany
    June 11, 2015 at 4:08 pm #

    Hey guys ,
    I have actually a thigh gap and i HATE it 😭 i’m born with it and i cant get rid of it ..
    Tips?

    Kisses

  92. June 29, 2015 at 9:21 pm #

    i have a thigh gap and by saying no to it does that mean i am of any less value? will i be looked down at in society for my ‘thigh gap’?? the picture at the end says that those without thigh gaps are closer to being mermaids and then questions who is the real winner? are you saying people with thigh gaps should automatically put wieght on or close the gap some how and that they’re actually losers.. posts like these should stop completely cause as you can see.. clearly not everyone will be happy by the outcome of the message

  93. Ellia
    July 18, 2015 at 9:00 pm #

    I have a thigh gap, i have all of my life according to all of my family pictures. I love this post but that last picture was offensive to those who naturally have thigh gaps. I cant gain very muh weight but it is still good to see that everyone loves themselves. I have come to terms with my thighs and honestly wish my thighs touch but they are mine and they are like children, no matter what they look like, I love them <3

  94. Haley
    July 30, 2015 at 6:27 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and I really don’t like it. I try so hard but I just can’t. I am an ectomorph and I want to be a mesomorph. SOMEONE HELP

  95. Darla ng
    August 9, 2015 at 6:33 pm #

    Thank you so much for the article. All of my family has very thin legs, it’s
    genetic. My mother was obese, but had a “thigh gap.” Go figure. I have been called chicken legs and numerous other things. Finding pants to fit is a challenge because it looks like I’m wearing jodhpurs. I guess we all should deal with the cards we were dealt. Be happy.

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