Close the (Thigh) Gap

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While thumbing through Facebook the other day, I came across these words from my glamazon friend and Girls Gone Strong cofounder Molly Galbraith:

So if your feet are together and your thighs don’t touch, that’s called a Thigh Gap.

What’s it called if your feet are 4 inches apart and your thighs still touch?

Oh yeah.

Dem Quadz…

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I burst out laughing. There’s no doubt about it: The so-called “thigh gap,” which is being positioned as a desirable trait for women to possess, has been horrifying many of my friends lately, and rightly so. Combating it with humor and grace? Totally Molly’s style.

If you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, bless you, you lucky thing. Because once you know, you cannot unknow.

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Not me.

The thigh gap is how much space exists between your upper legs when you stand with your feet together. I am proud to say that I have exactly none north of my knees, and that even my calves touch (yes, really).

If more skin-on-skin contact were the goal, I would be golden. Alas, in our cultural pursuit of becoming less, the goal is, of course, less contact — more daylight, shining right through your legs.

Many women remain unmoved by this campaign, and in fact relish quite a different aesthetic. I am one of them. During the past several weeks, as part of a video project I’m involved with, I averaged approximately a thousand lunge reps per day, and as a result, I noticed an increased girthiness to my own thighs. This was a pleasant realization — in my world, juicy quads are a good thing. All the better to squat with, you know? 

Regardless of whether you squat or don’t give one, this is a discussion worth having, because to position the thigh gap as a fitness goal indicates that it’s achievable based on your behavior…and this, frankly, may not be.

MIND THE GAP

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To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

Because here’s the problem, which exists in nearly every aesthetic-based fitness goal you can set: It may not be the right goal for you. In this case, the existence (or not) of said gap is due in large part to body type, skeletal structure and connective tissue length.

BODY TYPE

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By body type I mean the flesh on your bones. Ectomorphs — naturally thin, lithe types who have a difficult time putting on muscle or fat — are the only ones of us who may feasibly be prone to gappiness, and they make up a very small percentage of the population.

Mesomorphs, with their propensity toward muscularity, and endomorphs, who naturally tend to carry greater amounts of muscle and fat, are likely pursuing a goal they don’t have much hope at achieving — at least not without great insult to their own physiology. (Granted, most people consist of a blend of two types, but my point remains — ectomorphs ain’t all that common.)

PELVIC STRUCTURE

Pelvic Types

Another consideration lies in our very bones. As I was pondering this topic, I recalled a blog post I’d read earlier this year about the four different types of pelvic structures. In it, Dean Somerset, exercise physiologist, strength coach, and creator of Post Rehab Essentials, made a strong case for the shape of your hips — that is, the width and depth of its sockets, and the angles of the bony interactions of your pelvis and femurs — directly affecting your ability to deadlift well, not to mention squat, move laterally and even touch your toes.

Not surprisingly, these four types of pelvic structures don’t just act different from one another. They look different, too.

When I approached him with the theory that perhaps these same pelvic shapes could give one a leg up (pun intended) on achieving a thigh gap, he wholeheartedly agreed. “There are absolutely differences in pelvic structures — and more specifically in femoral neck angulation — that can predispose someone to having more of a gap than others,” says Somerset. ”Essentially, the wider the pelvis and the closer the femoral neck angle is to 90 degrees, the greater the spacing between the thighs will be, irrespective to leg length, body fat, muscle mass, and so on.”

What does this mean? You can have two women who have identical leg lengths, thigh circumferences, and body-fat percent and distribution, and the one who has the right combination of bony alignment at the pelvis and femoral neck will show a gap, whereas the other won’t.

Think about that: Is your goal really to alter your skeleton?

TENDON LENGTH

Adductors

There’s more. “Another feature is the positioning of the belly [the thickest part] of the adductor muscles [of the inner thigh] in relation to the tendon. Some people are born with the thicker part of the adductor muscles in a higher relative position on their thigh than others, which would limit the amount of spacing in between the thighs,” says Somerset. “If someone is born with a longer tendon length to her adductors, she will show a gap much easier than someone with a shorter tendon length, completely irrespective of fitness, body composition, or workout history.”

In other words, there ain’t nothing you can do about it.

Close the Gap

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have goals, and that they shouldn’t take work; the sacrifice of time and energy. But I am strongly suggesting we examine whether or not our stated goals make a lick of sense before we pursue them. I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.

And, I’m calling all women for whom the gap isn’t a sensical or desirable goal, and suggesting that we instead celebrate our strong, full, meaty-ass gams, either privately or publicly. If you opt for the latter, send a photo — like mine at the top — to photos@jensinkler.com, and I’ll add them to the #closethethighgap album at my Facebook page, Thrive as the Fittest.

Note: Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”

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Author:Jen Sinkler

Fitness writer and editor, workout connoisseur, meditator, proponent of spandex, former rugby player; never, ever without lip gloss.

77 Responses to “Close the (Thigh) Gap”

  1. Ivy
    November 7, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    Freakin YES! Love this! Totally playing. I see this becoming a popular hashtag on IG and twitter. Blow it up girl!!

    Also, really appreciate the research you put into this post. Thank you!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:00 pm #

      Thanks, Ivy! I’m loving all the places I’m seeing this post!:)

  2. William Eberle
    November 7, 2013 at 5:58 pm #

    Frankly, I’ve not understood this whole issue. This “thigh gap” thing seems a completely artificial and meaningless measure. Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.

    More great wisdom, Jen, thanks for sharing this! This is very important!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

      You said it, William: “Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.”

      Perfectly stated.

  3. November 7, 2013 at 6:04 pm #

    I gave up being skinny in favor of being strong a long time ago, and as a result I have quads of steel! I checked, and if my feet are touching so are my thighs. I have never been happier in my own skin. Thank you for your post. So awesome!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      So happy to hear YOU’RE happy! That is what’s really attractive.

  4. November 7, 2013 at 6:23 pm #

    I have no problem with the fact I have no gap. My complaint is with the chafing. After a long hike I feel like I need to sit on an ice pack.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      Cindy,
      Andria’s recommendation is something a lot of my rugby friends use, too.

  5. Andria
    November 7, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Cindy – I am a fattie who loves dresses, and I swear by Body Glide for the chub rub. It keeps me comfortable all day. YMMV, of course, but it has helped me tremendously.

  6. GirlCanLift
    November 7, 2013 at 7:17 pm #

    YES, a thousand times yes. And there’s another parameter : age. Many girls showing off thigh gaps are super skinny teenagers. Most of them will lose it in their 20s. Simply because after puberty is over, and we stop growing up, our body changes as it prepares for motherhood. The pelvis gets wider (which is your point), the thighs get thicker, among other things like a more pronounced waist and slightly wider rib cage. We put some meat and fat on, and our bone structure settles in its adult form.

    Also, if you look at most pictures, they usually adopt a specific posture for it to show. Butt out, legs slightly bent, torso down. I can do that too, but stand up, put your feet together, and poof.

    There are some adult women who have it, but it’s just how they’re made, and not the majority. And if the average woman has ever been even slightly overweight after her puberty, chances are she’ll never be able to get it back.

    And TBH, I really think shapely legs, whether they’re muscular or not, are much much more pretty than straight shapeless ones. And here’s where I say, I hate my sister lol.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

      I hope we can make an impact on how young girls feel about their bodies.

  7. November 7, 2013 at 7:46 pm #

    Love this post!!! Bless the hearts of the poor teenage girls who find self worth in a thigh gap! (Which in my opinion is the bigger issue.) However … lest we not forget, after you push out kids (I pushed out twins) your hips can spread! So yes my (very average, dimply) thighs do not touch … but that’s only to thanks the process of child birth. I would never boast around my thigh gap, because in reality there is not the muscle tone or strength that would determine my body strong. Bottome line, everybody is different, so heaven forbid we hold everyone to the same unrealistic standard!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

      I love your bottom line — everybody is different, ain’t no thang!

  8. catmich3
    November 7, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

    Open and closed case here. If you have or haven’t got a gap, embrace the fact that you have the ability to stand up, look in the mirror and love the reflection. What’s your option? Try being paralyzed and unable to stand on your own to pull on a pair of yoga pants……#getreal

  9. November 7, 2013 at 10:23 pm #

    Yes!!! I LOVED this! I hate when I see body types becoming a trend, making it impossible for most women to achieve them. We should all have the chance to understand our genetics, body types, and what’s physically possible to obtain before setting goals. This was amazing to read.
    Oh, and the statement from Lulu made me sick. This guy is selling workout clothes to WOMEN and he said that.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:08 pm #

      Yes yes YES to all of that, Melissa!

  10. November 8, 2013 at 3:47 am #

    Love this, I am a cyclist. Proud to say I have no gap. Just strong, strapping shapely thighs ;-)

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      Can’t go wrong with strong, strapping, shapely thighs!

  11. Krista
    November 8, 2013 at 8:54 am #

    Love it! Absolutely love it. :’)

  12. November 8, 2013 at 10:49 am #

    This is one of the best things I’ve ever read! I have never, and never will have a thigh gap (nor do I want one). It has admittedly taken me a long time, but I do love my big ol’ quads. Thigh gap shmigh gap, I’d rather be able to squat my body weight, thank you very much!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:10 pm #

      Love that love you got for your leggies! That is the way forward (literally).:)

  13. November 8, 2013 at 10:55 am #

    I love that you wrote this and laid it out well. When I was younger, I noticed my thighs touched and thought it was a big deal in a negative way as my other middle school girl class mates had skinny legs. Not until recent articles, such as this one, I didn’t realize how widespread this worry was among women and that the worry has a name. Glad people are taking ownership of the term and educating on it in a good way. Info like this needs to start at an even younger age. I hated I had big legs back then but now my calves receive many random compliments. If only I had known at age 10 what I know now…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

      If only, right?? So much worry for naught.

  14. November 8, 2013 at 11:40 am #

    That article about pelvis dimensions *really* resonated with me. Thank you for that. The first time I had to do weighted squats in a (Crossfit) gym I wanted to cry. I loved the deadlift right away, but that stupid squat was my nemesis. And I get so tired of people saying “Well people in Northeast Asia squat all the time.” Well, great, by I’m not from there! I can squat now, but it’s not all pretty like Neghar Fonooni. And furthermore, I don’t think it’s true that all kids can squat from birth either. I couldn’t and my son can’t. There is an anatomical factor at play that’s difficult if not impossible to factor out.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm #

      Yep, no one thing is true for everyone, and more personal trainers would do well to heed that fact.

  15. November 8, 2013 at 11:53 am #

    So, my mom actually used this in a pep-talk when I was in high school. I was depressed because I had big (DD) saggy boobs and jiggly thighs. Not even kidding, this is how the pep talk went:

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your boobs are saggy?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “You lift up your boob, put a pencil under it, drop your boob, and if the pencil stays, you have saggy boobs.”

    The penciled stayed.

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your thighs are fat?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “Stand with your legs together and you should have three holes. One at your ankles, one at your knees and one at the top of your thighs.”

    I had no holes, not one.

    To this day I give her a hard time, “Really, that was your pep-talk to a 14yo? How could you *not* tell that I was going to fail those tests.”

    Mom: “I don’t know.” …laughs.

    My mom actually is really nice, she’s a riot. I call her the “Rosey Show”

    See you at the Radiance Retreat in Jan!

  16. Amanda Nardo
    November 8, 2013 at 11:58 am #

    I think it’s wonderful that you are helping women to have realistic expectations of their body type, but please keep in mind that women like myself who are Ectomorph body type are not “String-beany”… your tone conveys some negativity toward that physique.

    • November 8, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

      Good point, and I’ve got nothing but love for ectos. I shall change it to “lithe” this instant.:)

      • Amanda Nardo
        November 8, 2013 at 12:47 pm #

        Thank you! As you mention, and I completely agree with you, that Ectomorph body types have the downfall of having trouble putting on fat OR muscle. I’m sure some women consider this a highly coveted body type since its usually the one plastered all over media, but I am one of the weakest female cross fitters in my gym… by a LOT. Looking forward to reading more of your work :)

  17. Sarah
    November 8, 2013 at 12:31 pm #

    Yep – sounds familiar! I’ve been an athlete my entire life playing countless sports as a kid, in high school, college and adult. My older sister is an ectomorph and always would talk about the thigh gap (just said space between her thighs back in the day) and said “means I have perfect legs.” I didn’t care – I had muscular legs and still do! (well kind of right now as I’m due with my third and last baby any day now). My legs can kick butt and I’m down with that! Thanks for posting this – and explaining not every female will have this!! And BTW…I’ve gotten many compliments about the size of my calves to go along with my thighs over the years…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:14 pm #

      I hear ya — I call my calves “cows” — proudly! :D

  18. November 8, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    Not to mention that fat on your thighs (and hips) is actually the healthy kind of fat and may be protective of certain diseases!
    I’ve lost a lot of weight recently, and the first place I lose weight is my thighs. I’m one of those weird people who have a thigh gap now (not sure why, I’m certainly not an ectomorph) and when I first noticed I was not happy! I wanted to look strong and my legs were looking way too skinny compared to the rest of me. Then I learn that the fat that I don’t have (and probably never will) is the healthy kind. The stuff I have in abundance (stomach/ upper body) is the unhealthy kind. To me, this is far worse than not having a thigh gap.
    But I’m learning to love my body, I’ve been strength training and dem quadz are very visible now ;).
    I think we all need to learn to accept and work with (not against) what we’ve got. Be the best version of you, sure, but don’t compare that to anyone else.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:15 pm #

      You said it — the best version of yourself is the goal! :)

  19. November 8, 2013 at 5:17 pm #

    Im starting to get so annoyed by this ‘perfect shape’ ideal in the fitness world (so please forgive me for venting my feelings here). Fitness was about being healthy and strong, but now its as though we all should be competing for ‘miss universe (close to pornographied) ‘check how sexy I am’ ‘-titles (or the sexiest pic).
    Fitness should be about feeling great. Not about feeling insecure.

    In my opinion there should be no ideal perfect standard in fitness because, like in any other sport, it is about PERSONAL achievements and not beauty-pageants. What I love about lifting is that you focus on your own body. You learn to work it, to feed it, to care for it, to strengthen it, to love it. My work out is my ME-time; the only time I let myself go in personal vanity (looking in the mirror and thinking: “hey girl, those boring heavy pistols are really paying off!”) and -other, less shallow- personal goals. Its not about wanting to look like someone else, it’s about wanting to look like MY strong self ;). Yet even I sometimes tend to forget that when getting ‘motivated’ by looking at ‘motivational’ pics of fitness models in gyms wearing thongs (wtf is that about?).

    It’s so ironic to me, this ‘thigh-gap’ thing.. cause normally I actually feel insecure sometimes when I look at ‘ideal standard fitness bods’, wondering how I can train my legs and bum to get more bulky (“ohmy I want a big firm bum like that!”). Cause I actually HAVE the thigh gap. I have long skinny legs and a small bum (GENES!) and do double ‘leg ‘n glute- days’ because I want to be less skinny in those regions (personal goal). And now this? Suddenly my personal ‘body-trait’ is being glorified? (Gisele Bündchen suddenly has ‘the most amazing fit body’ too, apparently. There Im looking at her nudie pic thinking: “I was feeling insecure about what people suddenly think is ‘amazing and fit’? -Shoot me”)

    It just proves to me some parts of the fitness industry are as perverted like any other money-making commercialized industry (fashion, cosmetics, Hollywood). I dont trust any fitness website telling me how I should look or else I should look at my training schedule (or buy it from them to ‘look like this hot girl’).

    Again: training is working on your own body and strength. Muscles, fat, skeleton: the way it works and can be built all have to do with GENES. I’m so glad with this post Jen (and Molly); cause you’re making that perfectly clear here. Girls (women!); keep on training, know your body, don’t let the BS bring you down; It has nothing to do with our personal hard work, sweat, results, pride, pleasure and satisfaction :) :)

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:16 pm #

      YES. Fitness should be about feeling GREAT!

  20. November 8, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Jen, your post is such a welcome answer to this: http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/11/06/2902961/lululemon-thigh-gap/, which I just saw yesterday. I love how you approached this conversation from both a scientific and psychological mindset. We are all unique and beautiful. Thank you for celebrating this.
    Danielle

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:17 pm #

      Thanks, Danielle! I think it’s important to approach these issues logically.

  21. Tammy
    November 8, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    I agree. I have to laugh. My hubby says the most attractive on women are when you can see daylight, but not the whole day. haha. Just had to add that.

  22. Dar234
    November 8, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    After two years of working out and training for triathlon, just this week I noticed my thighs touching!! My legs have shape and look better than ever, and I’m getting rid of what I thought was my gap because I had boney legs!! Great article!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:18 pm #

      Congrats on your athletic achievements!

  23. Marissa
    November 9, 2013 at 10:11 am #

    I appreciate you. xoxo

  24. Marcie
    November 9, 2013 at 4:12 pm #

    Even in high school. About 60 lbs ago. I had “soccer thighs”
    I expect when i get to a healthier weight they will still be there. In all their glory!

  25. November 11, 2013 at 6:06 pm #

    This is beautiful. Thank you for showing that a thigh gap isn’t the most important thing on our bodies! I would much rather be strong, healthy and muscular than be weak and “skinny”. I have a slight thigh hap and I’m trying to fill it in!

    • someone
      November 14, 2013 at 3:14 pm #

      I am healthy, slim, strong and I have a thigh gap due to my bone structure. I cycle a lot and I run a lot. Stop generalising and associating thigh gaps with weakness. Personally, I think that my thigh gap makes me more attractive (not saying you have to feel the same though, everyone is entitled to their own opinion of what looks good).

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Thanks, Leigha! It’s definitely not the most important thing, or at all important, for that matter.

      Let’s do keep in mind that there are plenty of strong women who show the gap, too, though. It’s based on pelvic shape, tendon length and body type, not strength.

  26. November 13, 2013 at 11:50 am #

    Wonderfully put!!

  27. someone
    November 14, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    Ok, maybe thigh gaps are not the most important thing in the world, but who dictates what body parts are important “enough”? I think that we should stop being so obsessed with women’s bodies in general.

    With that said, I am one of the people who think that thigh gaps are attractive, but since i have one myself I am probably biased. However, I didn’t have one until I started running and cycling and became more fit.

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

      Thigh gaps are attractive. So are the lack of thigh gaps.:)

  28. Lindsey
    November 15, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    This post is great…..BUT I think you should be mindful that SOME ladies will have a gap no matter what; basically, shaming those who are naturally quite thin, or just who naturally have skinny legs, is not cool. Love all bodies! All healthy, well-fed bodies are good!!!

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

      Hi, Lindsey,
      We are in fully agreement — ALL healthy, well-fed bodies are good. Which is why this post has not a thing to do with shaming anyone. A couple excerpts:

      Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

      It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”

  29. November 17, 2013 at 9:34 am #

    Wow, I think this is a great post and I think you did a good job of not disparaging anyone, but just reminding us that it’s more than diet and exercise that determine how a woman’s body looks, and more so, there are a myriad of ways to be healthy and beautiful. As someone who once struggled with an eating disorder, the whole thigh gap thing used to be on my mind a lot and now I try not to compare myself to other women when it comes to that. I found that once I started recovering and using food and exercise to my advantage (i.e. eating and eating well and exercising for pleasure not punishment), my body fell into a comfortable, healthy weight that I kind of really love. I don’t know what I weigh but I know I’m more comfortable in my own skin now than I ever was.

  30. November 18, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    Oh man I’d been dreaming of closing my thigh gap for years! I’m about as ectomorphic as you could possibly imagine and it was a huge goal of mine.

    70 pounds later I finally closed it … and started having to repair/replace my jeans every few months :P

  31. November 18, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    Also, what part of the pelvic bone are people prodding with their fingers up there? I’m anatomically feeling really stupid right now. Am I supposed to be able to fit a couple fingers into some part of it to figure out which type of pelvis I have?

  32. Lori
    November 27, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

    Anyone who spends any time wondering or worrying about whether they have a thigh gap or not or how to get one probably either a) is 13 years old and/or b) really needs to get a life…volunteering with less fortunate people, homeless animals, or something else that actually adds meaning to her life. Really.

  33. December 11, 2013 at 11:33 am #

    Hey Jen, this is great. I’ve taking a short “leave of absence” from training after I made a decision to give more education + more support. Which means I get to do more research + more writing. I’ve been following you a long time, + look – you came up in my research about this – ‘the thigh gap”. Thanks for putting out great content + being fun to follow on social medai too.

  34. December 17, 2013 at 7:04 pm #

    LOVE! Thanks so much for putting in the time and energy to research this…

  35. Gonvis
    January 13, 2014 at 12:43 pm #

    http://ixellian.be/716/mind-the-thigh-gap/

    Thanks for being a positive, inspirational figure for us teens! x

  36. January 22, 2014 at 10:37 am #

    The thigh gap is something that I mentally struggled with all through high school and early adult hood. It took a lot of self love to reach a point where I said this is my body, these are my genes, and this is what I have to work with. Obesity runs rampant in my family. Even myself I worked my way down from 250 lbs to 149 lbs (I’m 5’9). It wasn’t about getting skinny anymore or seeking some media idea of what I should look like, it was about health and strength. Having lost so much weight though while my thighs don’t have a gap I don’t get the chaffing and rawness from it anymore. Even with all the mental work I’ve done accepting myself I still need to read these kinds of articles though. Thank you so much for helping those of us blessed in the thigh region feel at peace with what we have.

  37. Courtney
    January 31, 2014 at 5:40 pm #

    I have the thigh gap because I’ve got the naturally skinny body type and it sucks it’s so hard to gain any muscle and I want this thigh gap out of my life

  38. Holly
    February 8, 2014 at 3:05 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and I absolutely hate it, my legs don’t touch at all and I think they look disgusting. I can’t seem to put on any fat on my thighs and everyone at school ‘wants a thigh gap so bad’ where as I would do literally anything to have legs that touch in the middle and be curvy like everyone else. I hate my thigh gap, and get quite annyoed at the hype about them.

  39. Julie
    March 2, 2014 at 2:09 pm #

    How about we embrace our natural healthy bodies? I do not, nor never will (even being at the healthiest I have ever been) have a thigh gap and love my body as it was made to be. TRULY healthy, which admittedly looks different for every body, should be our goal.

  40. Mya
    March 2, 2014 at 10:17 pm #

    Who every decided that thigh gaps were a desirable trait? I have NEVER heard anyone accept women worry bout having a thigh gap. Like where did this even start? I was on tumblr for the first time last year and I was hit in the face with nothing but people asking me how I obtained my thigh gap and I’m like wtf? I was born this way? Like people are staving themselves to look like bean poles. I just don’t get it. I hope that fad dies out.

  41. Jill
    March 5, 2014 at 5:55 pm #

    I want less muscle toned and more from fat but I can’t gain any weight on my thighs, it all goes to my stomach to the point where I have skinny legs but a gut that makes me look pregnant. How do I avoid that?

    • Irene
      March 12, 2014 at 9:36 am #

      The stomach is a bit of problem for me too. The worst thing is wearing hip huger pants which accentuate the tummy. Look for pants with a true waist (almost impossible to find these days).

  42. Jennifer
    March 11, 2014 at 4:54 am #

    i dont understand why i have thigh gaps naturally and my friends is pretty jealous of me. is it possibly because of genetics?but my aunts and mom dont really have it.mine is more obvious.im tired of how people say im lucky to have it and they are so jealous of me.what’s so good about thigh gaps? i dont understand why people is so desperate about thigh gaps…ugh

  43. Irene
    March 12, 2014 at 9:11 am #

    I naturally have thigh gap and have always hated it. I have been picked on and degraded about being “skinny” all my life. Why is it okay for someone to call me skinny, but it is not okay for me to call them fat? At 5′ 3″, 118 lbs. I have a nice figure (36D naturally), exercise, eat healthy, take no medications and the thigh gap is still there. And I’m 70 years old!

    • March 12, 2014 at 10:42 am #

      Irene, re: your question about why one is OK and the other isn’t, I would argue that it ISN’T OK for someone to pick on you about your size. It isn’t cool going either direction.

      • Irene
        March 12, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

        Thanks, Jen. I always wanted to ask that question. Enjoy your day.

  44. Ashley
    March 20, 2014 at 12:23 am #

    This is so awesome!!! I never ever heard of a thigh gap until a friend of mine got in a fight with he boyfriend over something and he had asked name 3 things I’ve said that make you feel bad about your image. One of them was if her legs touched he would make her not eat as much junk food and hit the gym. I’m like what the hell is that about so I asked my boyfriend and he told me about the thigh gap. Fortunate for her she can achieve this some what healthily. Yet why the hell does it matter if your thighs touch or not. I have never heard if a guy getting upset over a thigh gap before. After reading this I’m happy with my legs and my thighs and I’m blessed to have a man who doesn’t give a crap about whether or not my thighs touch. This whole thing is crazy!!! I would total send a picture if I had Facebook! Let’s get some women to see that having a thigh gap is totally crazy! Thanks for this!

  45. Linda
    March 20, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    Thank you! I am a natural stick person and I’ve been terribly self-conscious about it my whole life, feeling like I have to prove that I’m not a bitch or anorexic to strangers all the time. And feeling embarrassed for my boyfriend. My lack of hips and bottom half curves have always made me feel like a boy or less than a woman, exacerbated by “curvy vs. thing” BS “debate.” Body types should not be a bipartisan issue. Thankfully, I’ve gotten over this quite a bit. Humor is the best aid, it ain’t my fault I’m a pooping machine from a lanky Russian g-pa and petite Irish g-ma.

    I used to make the joke that everyone wants to cuddle up to sharp right angles…however after just now learning about this “trend” from the Colbert Report and doing some social media investigation, I see “sharp 90 degree angles” could be hash tagged as “thinspo” or “perfection.” WHAT?!

    Watching the Colbert Report I was forehead slapping with an open jaw. I’ve always been embarrassed by the fact that my legs are sticks that don’t touch, opting for pants and dresses that create the illusion of more meat.

    Of course, it’s the grass is always greener conundrum. But at the same time us women should help each to realize that unrealistic goals like being so skinny or always looking young are perpetuated precisely because they are unattainable. Making an insatiable appetite for consuming products. Put simpler, it’s all about making money and we women need to remember we are not tool bags!!! Starting first with not feeding into ANY discussion or “debate” on what is the right, healthy or ideal body-type unless it’s with a medical professional.

    Women power to ALL skeletal structures!

  46. Allison
    March 30, 2014 at 4:15 pm #

    Love this info! I was laughing so hard at Dem Quadz. My confidence has sky rocketed since finding such strong, inspirational women to look up to. Thanks for all you do!

  47. Joni
    April 1, 2014 at 1:40 pm #

    I really appreciate this article. I am an ectomorph so I am naturally very thin and have a thigh gap. I never even noticed it until all this craze about thigh gaps started going around. I hate when people envy my body shape just because it is the current fad. I fully believe in being the healthiest you can be and being happy with your unique shape! A thigh gap or lack there of doesn’t make you beautiful – you ARE beautiful and need to accept that. Let’s focus on celebrating and encouraging each other and not envying :-).

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