Action Over Angstby Jen Sinkler
I am most of my friends’ and clients’ least favorite person to complain to, because I have a near-zero tolerance for it. In the vast majority of cases, I believe action wins out over angst, and so the first question out of my mouth is usually, “So what are you going to do about it?”
To be clear, I’m not cut from the “shut up and suffer” cloth — some complaints are fruitful. “That exercise makes my back hurt,” for instance, is one I want to hear, so we can make appropriate changes (but see, even then action is the outcome).
Rather, I have an intense aversion to playing the victim card, as my friend Jill Coleman calls it. I believe we have the power to change our trajectory, and that power is rooted in action.
Every single thing that crosses our lips (and fingers, if you’re typing) needs to have value. And being tired/stressed/overworked/underboundaried/hangry/etc. doesn’t excuse even one sentence that doesn’t.
It starts with ownership (of your behavior) and it ends with action (to change it and/or the circumstances that set it off).
This is where the life-changing magic happens.