Close the (Thigh) Gap


While thumbing through Facebook the other day, I came across these words from my glamazon friend and Girls Gone Strong cofounder Molly Galbraith:

So if your feet are together and your thighs don’t touch, that’s called a Thigh Gap.

What’s it called if your feet are 4 inches apart and your thighs still touch?

Oh yeah.

Dem Quadz…


I burst out laughing. The push to attain a so-called “thigh gap,” a body structure being pushed as a must-have trait for women, has been horrifying many of my friends lately, and rightly so. Combating the trend with humor and grace? Totally Molly’s style.

If you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, bless you, you lucky thing. Because once you know, you cannot unknow.


Not me.

The thigh gap is how much space exists between your upper legs when you stand with your feet together. I am proud to say that I have exactly none north of my knees, and that even my calves touch (yes, really).

If more skin-on-skin contact were the goal, I would be golden. Alas, in our cultural pursuit of becoming less, the goal is, of course, less contact — more daylight, shining right through your legs.

Many women remain unmoved by this campaign, and relish quite a different aesthetic for themselves (while hopefully remaining mum on other people’s choices for themselves). I am one of those. During the past several weeks, as part of a video project I’m involved with, I averaged approximately a thousand lunge reps per day, and as a result, I noticed an increased girthiness to my own thighs. This was a pleasant realization — in my world, juicy quads are a good thing. All the better to squat with, you know? 

Regardless of whether you squat or don’t give one, this is a discussion worth having, because to position the thigh gap as a fitness goal indicates that it’s achievable based on your behavior…and this, frankly, may not be.



To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

Because here’s the problem, which exists in nearly every aesthetic-based fitness goal you can set: It may not be the right goal for you. In this case, the existence (or not) of said gap is due in large part to body type, skeletal structure and connective tissue length.



By body type I mean the flesh on your bones. Ectomorphs — naturally thin, lithe types who have a difficult time putting on muscle or fat — are the only ones of us who may feasibly be prone to gappiness, and they make up a very small percentage of the population.

Mesomorphs, with their propensity toward muscularity, and endomorphs, who naturally tend to carry greater amounts of muscle and fat, are likely pursuing a goal they don’t have much hope at achieving — at least not without great insult to their own physiology. (Granted, most people consist of a blend of two types, but my point remains — ectomorphs ain’t all that common.)


Pelvic Types

Another consideration lies in our very bones. As I was pondering this topic, I recalled a blog post I’d read earlier this year about the four different types of pelvic structures. In it, Dean Somerset, exercise physiologist, strength coach, and creator of Post Rehab Essentials, made a strong case for the shape of your hips — that is, the width and depth of its sockets, and the angles of the bony interactions of your pelvis and femurs — directly affecting your ability to deadlift well, not to mention squat, move laterally and even touch your toes.

Not surprisingly, these four types of pelvic structures don’t just act different from one another. They look different, too.

When I approached him with the theory that perhaps these same pelvic shapes could give one a leg up (pun intended) on achieving a thigh gap, he wholeheartedly agreed. “There are absolutely differences in pelvic structures — and more specifically in femoral neck angulation — that can predispose someone to having more of a gap than others,” says Somerset. “Essentially, the wider the pelvis and the closer the femoral neck angle is to 90 degrees, the greater the spacing between the thighs will be, irrespective to leg length, body fat, muscle mass, and so on.”

What does this mean? You can have two women who have identical leg lengths, thigh circumferences, and body-fat percent and distribution, and the one who has the right combination of bony alignment at the pelvis and femoral neck will show a gap, whereas the other won’t.

Think about that: Is your goal really to alter your skeleton?



There’s more. “Another feature is the positioning of the belly [the thickest part] of the adductor muscles [of the inner thigh] in relation to the tendon. Some people are born with the thicker part of the adductor muscles in a higher relative position on their thigh than others, which would limit the amount of spacing in between the thighs,” says Somerset. “If someone is born with a longer tendon length to her adductors, she will show a gap much easier than someone with a shorter tendon length, completely irrespective of fitness, body composition, or workout history.”

In other words, there ain’t nothing you can do about it.

Close the Gap

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have goals, and that they shouldn’t take work; the sacrifice of our time and energy. But I am strongly suggesting we examine whether or not our stated goals make a lick of sense before we pursue them. I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.

And, I’m calling all women for whom the gap isn’t a sensical or desirable goal, and suggesting that we instead celebrate our strong, full, meaty-ass gams, either privately or publicly. If you opt for the latter, send a photo — like mine at the top — to, and I’ll add them to the #closethethighgap album at my Facebook page, Thrive as the Fittest.

Note: Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”


Author:Jen Sinkler

Fitness writer and editor, workout connoisseur, meditator, proponent of spandex, former rugby player; never, ever without lip gloss.
Comments: 190

190 Responses to “Close the (Thigh) Gap”

  1. Ivy
    November 7, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    Freakin YES! Love this! Totally playing. I see this becoming a popular hashtag on IG and twitter. Blow it up girl!!

    Also, really appreciate the research you put into this post. Thank you!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:00 pm #

      Thanks, Ivy! I’m loving all the places I’m seeing this post!:)

    • anon
      June 29, 2015 at 7:00 pm #

      I have a ‘thigh gap’. My hips measure 11 inches wider than my waist and I am slim. Until the ‘thigh gap crraze’ my only issue was envying people who could drop things and have their lap save said things…I once was texting, my phone fell through my thigh gap and into a puddle…life is cruel. Anyhow, after the craze I”m now having my body questioned because I DO have a thigh gap…blogs that encourage people to say no to aspects of some body types or purpose to value one type over another are all as bad as each other. I cannot simply ‘close’ my thigh gap. Does that mean I am less beatiful or my legs arm’t attractive enough for me too include their photo or even have my legs / body accepted by the likes of you? You say it is a matter of genetics and claim to champion beauty as something deriving from making the moat of what we have, yet go on to extol love of a specific feature, just like those who covet ‘the thigh gap’.

      It is tha same deal as those whose responce to thin models is to then have fat folk parade the cat walk…why not have both, and all inbetween…so we, everyone of us, can look up and see ourselves being celebrated for the marvels we are…fat, thin, four or however many limbed, tattooed, freckled, gap toothed, curly or straight or no haired etc etc…difference makes us astounding, without it no comparison could even be drawn and beauty wouldn’t be up for discussion!

      • July 13, 2015 at 10:41 am #


        I agree, there is nothing wrong with you, as there is nothing wrong with any body type. This day and age it seems everyone is out to get those that don’t look like a norm they have in their heads. A friend I know, she naturally has wider hips, is in awesome shape and has a natural thigh gap. She is in perfect proportion for her height and size, not skinny, not fat and very healthy. Thigh gap, breast size, labia size and many other things that women seem to love/hate need to be just accepted as they are. Any person I am with, I am happy to be with as they are, I love the diversity that we have in humanity.

      • anon2
        July 28, 2016 at 1:49 am #

        Like you, I am really upset by this article, and I am so sorry that it also made you feel bad about having a thigh gap. People are always saying to me, oh you think you are so hot with your thigh gap, and I’m like, I didn’t ask for these thighs! It really hurts my feelings and makes me feel very upset. It must have been so awful to drop your phone in a puddle that time, and I don’t think that people understand how hard it is to have a thigh gap and to drop things like phones into puddles. Today, your phone, tomorrow, it could be your purse or even, as happened to me one time, a granola bar that I had just unwrapped which fell right through my thigh gap and into the dirt. Probably just as well I didn’t eat it though, because now I will get to keep my thigh gap.

        • July 28, 2016 at 8:03 am #

          If this is comedy, it is genius. Thank you.:) (If not, I’m so sorry!)

    • Sara
      November 1, 2015 at 7:53 am #

      I am 17 years old, 5′ 7″ and I dance (I moved countries, therefore leaving the one dance academy I’ve been at for 13 years). Because I moved I haven’t been dancing as much but now I do a lot of sports at my new school. I have an extremely fast metabolism and I used to be really really skinny. People would always call be anorexic and tell me to eat more but the ironic thing was that I probably ate more than any of my friends. I remember once, I ate six slices of pizza after a dance performance and my friends literally ate only 2 and I would ask myself how come I eat so much more than my friends but I can never gain weight? Because I don’t dance as much anymore (I plan to continue dancing when I move back for University) I decided to do sports for these past 2 years like track and field, basketball, and volleyball. But I have a really big thigh gap and it’s a big insecurity. I was underweight for basically my entire life but because Im not dancing as much, my parents have told me that I look better and I gained a little more weight. I never gained or lost any weight since I was 13… Ive been 90 pounds since I was 13 and only this year, I brought my weight up to 105 which is still considered underweight. I dont know what to do and I hate my thigh gap because I’ve been told on multiple occasions that I’m anorexic or too skinny but I can’t really do anything about it.. I eat really healthy, and I eat a lot. I lost some muscle last year but I gained some more this year because of sports. I dont know how to get my body to look “normal” and its really annoying.

      • HP
        December 22, 2015 at 8:34 pm #

        I feel your pain. My weight doesn’t go up or down, I get people giving me weird looks and I know they think I’m anorexic, but I’m not. I really despise my thigh gap and when this craze started I got really annoyed that people thought the thigh gap was “attractive”.

      • Jennifer
        January 2, 2016 at 8:23 am #

        Hi Sara! First off, there is no “normal” body type. We’re all different, and its ok to be different than your friends. You’re still young, and your body has a few more years where it will mature and change. It sounds like you are healthy, just blessed with a fast metabolism. You get excercise and eat when you’re hungry…and that’s awesome. I was thin and small in high school, 5’2 & 115 lbs when I graduated. In my mid twenties my body changed drastically. My hips got wider, my breasts grew some but I didn’t gain more than 5-10 lbs. So, embrace your body for its natural shape and stay healthy with diet and excercise, like you’re already doing. What you may see as a flaw is actually what makes you You. Love yourself, and you’ll be just fine. 🙂

      • June 24, 2016 at 10:36 pm #

        I’m 14 years old. I have a thigh gab and am perfectly happy with it. I also love that I am tan. i where size 0 pants with a belt bc my legs are too long for kids sizes I mean c’mon kids clothes are so not cute. I am 89 lbs and I was 50 lbs from 3rd to fifth grade. I have gained 10 lbs this past year. I am in varsity track for hurdles and I have really long legs. My track coaches call me long legs. I don’t mind I actually like it. I love my long legs. I have been one of the shortest people in my grade up until now. Over the last year I have grown four inches and am 5’3 now. I like being taller now, no I love it. I lift in track and gained the 10 lbs from muscle, and now that the track season is over I’m losing my arm strength but not my weight I gained. My sister has always been a little over weight and my mom used to be just like me. When I was little I looked the exact same as she did when she was little its freaky. She wasn’t sporty like me though. When she had my sister she lost her metablism and is now overweight and can’t lose weight. I eat a lot. I love food. I am almost always hungry and my aunts and uncles always tell me to eat a hamburger lol. Well anyways I’m afraid I will lose my metabolism when I have kids. Do you guys think I will be like my mom or no? Btw if your wondering yu a 13 year old is on here I was just wondering u I have a thigh gap lol so ya…I’m 14 years old. I have a thigh gab and am perfectly happy with it. I also love that I am tan. i where size 0 pants with a belt bc my legs are too long for kids sizes I mean c’mon kids clothes are so not cute. I am 89 lbs and I was 50 lbs from 3rd to fifth grade. I have gained 10 lbs this past year. I am in varsity track for hurdles and I have really long legs. My track coaches call me long legs. I don’t mind I actually like it. I love my long legs. I have been one of the shortest people in my grade up until now. Over the last year I have grown four inches and am 5’3 now. I like being taller now, no I love it. I lift in track and gained the 10 lbs from muscle, and now that the track season is over I’m losing my arm strength but not my weight I gained. My sister has always been a little over weight and my mom used to be just like me. When I was little I looked the exact same as she did when she was little its freaky. She wasn’t sporty like me though. When she had my sister she lost her metablism and is now overweight and can’t lose weight. I eat a lot. I love food. I am almost always hungry and my aunts and uncles always tell me to eat a hamburger lol. Well anyways I’m afraid I will lose my metabolism when I have kids. Do you guys think I will be like my mom or no? Btw if your wondering yu a 13 year old is on here I was just wondering u I have a thigh gap lol so ya….

        I’m 14 years old. I have a thigh gab and am perfectly happy with it. I also love that I am tan. i where size 0 pants with a belt bc my legs are too long for kids sizes I mean c’mon kids clothes are so not cute. I am 89 lbs and I was 50 lbs from 3rd to fifth grade. I have gained 10 lbs this past year. I am in varsity track for hurdles and I have really long legs. My track coaches call me long legs. I don’t mind I actually like it. I love my long legs. I have been one of the shortest people in my grade up until now. Over the last year I have grown four inches and am 5’3 now. I like being taller now, no I love it. I lift in track and gained the 10 lbs from muscle, and now that the track season is over I’m losing my arm strength but not my weight I gained. My sister has always been a little over weight and my mom used to be just like me. When I was little I looked the exact same as she did when she was little its freaky. She wasn’t sporty like me though. When she had my sister she lost her metablism and is now overweight and can’t lose weight. I eat a lot. I love food. I am almost always hungry and my aunts and uncles always tell me to eat a hamburger lol. Well anyways I’m afraid I will lose my metabolism when I have kids. Do you guys think I will be like my mom or no? Btw if your wondering yu a 13 year old is on here I was just wondering u I have a thigh gap lol so ya….

        • June 24, 2016 at 10:37 pm #

          It sent 3 times sry ☝

        • Person
          July 22, 2016 at 10:30 pm #

          I’m your age and 5’7, and I’m not considered tall… 5’3 is definitely not tall

          But I have the fast metabolism thigh gap issue too. I like being able to eat as much as I want but I hate the appearance of my bone structure and even wprse the fact that my calves have grown muscular and arch out maling it look even weirder from behind. Anyone know how to get rid of it? 🙁

      • George,
        June 25, 2016 at 12:33 pm #

        Love yourself as you are, be happy to be healthy and do your thing as no matter how you look some people will like you and some people will hate you for it (even if only because of envy.
        I have always adored thigh gaps, even before they became famous, even when the term did not even exist as such and I would have to explain to people what I was talking about.

        But that’s my personal taste and has nothing to do with anybody else and I am sure there are many people who feel like me and some who fee the opposite
        I am sure that your body looks perfectly normal and concentrate on being happy with it as it is, and with yourself as you do not need to change it and to conform to anybody’s opinions and I can promise you that your thigh gap and your body in general would be liked by LOTS and lots of people (just as it will be disliked and criticized by a good few idiots who have no better things to do then to criticize others on account of their bodies)
        Best of luck and keep dancing and doing whatever you do with a big smile on your face

      • Sylvia
        January 4, 2017 at 6:09 pm #

        You may need an athlete’s diet. That is probably far more calories than you are already eating. Maybe even 3000 a day. Make sure they are healthy calories. Brown rice, potatoes, avocados, bananas, eggs as well as other foods. I am naturally skinny too and have been all my life, and always LOVED my food, yet couldn’t gain an ounce of weight. Always very active you see, and didn’t eat enough really for the level of activity I was doing.

      • Anon3
        October 20, 2017 at 4:59 pm #

        I 100% agree!! I’m glad there is someone else out there who can relate! I’m super under weight and my mom keeps saying when you get your growth spurt you will fill out. But that’s not true.. my legs grew. Longer. Not wider. And I get called anorexic and too skinny and it is my biggest insecurity. Everyone calls me a twig and I hate being this skinny. But I would also hate being overweight. I just want to be in bwtween and average to my my height weight scale. I wish I could do something. And I don’t understand because no one in my family is underweight. They are all proportional to their height weight average. I have gained 3 pound in the past month but notice no difference what so ever. And my thigh gap is still the same width. It’s really upsetting to me. I just want to be happy with my body and MOVE ONNN:(!!

    • Sannarah
      October 20, 2017 at 4:49 pm #

      Hi so I thought this might have been about how to get a smaller thigh gap. I have been struggling to find ways to make mine smaller. As of now mine is probably about an inch wide and i want to make it reduced to like .2 inches. Any advice of how to get bigger legs while still keeping a flat stomach??

  2. William Eberle
    November 7, 2013 at 5:58 pm #

    Frankly, I’ve not understood this whole issue. This “thigh gap” thing seems a completely artificial and meaningless measure. Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.

    More great wisdom, Jen, thanks for sharing this! This is very important!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

      You said it, William: “Different things look good on different folks, but what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look.”

      Perfectly stated.

    • veseloiu
      July 6, 2016 at 8:12 am #

      Well, William, and Jen, while I absolutely agree with you that “Different things look good on different folks” I would strongly disagree with you when you say that “what looks best is when folks are happy with how they look” and I think that people blinded and tongue-tied by too much political correctness are doing a disservice to everybody and to society as a whole.

      If you are scared or too PC to take attitude and tell the truth, then fine, but, at least don’t lie as you may be doing more harm thanyou can imagine

      To say that a severely and pathologically overweight (or underweight) person looks best just because (s)he is happy with how she looks is total nonsense.

      Also to say that a severely (visibly) tattooed or pierced person, (who may be happy with the way they look but may look scary to or disgusting to most other people) looks the best, just because they are happy with the way they look, is ridiculous.
      Being tolerant is one thing but abdicating our social responsibility towards each other to tell the truth (which may hurt but is nevertheless, the truth) then we are part of the problem
      If the society tries to comfort with such lies (just so as not to upset them,) persons who actually would benefit from some firm telling off and firm guidance and support towards improving, the persons risk getting even further into the respective conditions to dangerous levels, reassured by our PC lies that it’s OK and they may also give bad examples to others around them , blinded by the message that it’s OK, it’s great.

      To see families of 3 generations of overweight people at the supermarket checkout, some of them stuffing, even then, their faces with sweets and /or pastries, is both disgusting and heart-wrenching, especially thinking about the young children who have their futures destroyed as they are fattened by their parents’ refusal to acknowledge that that is wrong and by society’s (and social services’) failure to recognise that as child neglect and child cruelty and to intervene, each in their respective ways , by a comment , a suggestion or by removing the children to a safer environment. It’s easier to say nothing and do nothing, to avoid being labelled as something or other. But, if you are scared to take attitude and tell the truth, at least don’t lie

      • July 6, 2016 at 8:35 am #

        YOUR truth is different from THE truth. Very, very often a lack of thigh gap is not even an indicator that a woman is overweight. To review the information I covered in post, body type and bone structure play huge roles in the existence of a thigh gap (or not).

        Also, on the topic of tattoos and body alterations, that is their business, not yours. Stop playing the role of body police, at least on this site.

      • William Eberle
        July 6, 2016 at 8:59 am #

        Veseloiu, this post was specifically talking about thigh gaps and that is what I was addressing. Taking my comments and applying them to completely different situations is on you and unrelated to my words and my intent.

        I stand by my comments as they are related to thigh gaps and I am not going to divert this discussion to talk about other physical characteristics, that’s an immensely more complex issue.

  3. November 7, 2013 at 6:04 pm #

    I gave up being skinny in favor of being strong a long time ago, and as a result I have quads of steel! I checked, and if my feet are touching so are my thighs. I have never been happier in my own skin. Thank you for your post. So awesome!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      So happy to hear YOU’RE happy! That is what’s really attractive.

  4. November 7, 2013 at 6:23 pm #

    I have no problem with the fact I have no gap. My complaint is with the chafing. After a long hike I feel like I need to sit on an ice pack.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      Andria’s recommendation is something a lot of my rugby friends use, too.

  5. Andria
    November 7, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

    Cindy – I am a fattie who loves dresses, and I swear by Body Glide for the chub rub. It keeps me comfortable all day. YMMV, of course, but it has helped me tremendously.

  6. GirlCanLift
    November 7, 2013 at 7:17 pm #

    YES, a thousand times yes. And there’s another parameter : age. Many girls showing off thigh gaps are super skinny teenagers. Most of them will lose it in their 20s. Simply because after puberty is over, and we stop growing up, our body changes as it prepares for motherhood. The pelvis gets wider (which is your point), the thighs get thicker, among other things like a more pronounced waist and slightly wider rib cage. We put some meat and fat on, and our bone structure settles in its adult form.

    Also, if you look at most pictures, they usually adopt a specific posture for it to show. Butt out, legs slightly bent, torso down. I can do that too, but stand up, put your feet together, and poof.

    There are some adult women who have it, but it’s just how they’re made, and not the majority. And if the average woman has ever been even slightly overweight after her puberty, chances are she’ll never be able to get it back.

    And TBH, I really think shapely legs, whether they’re muscular or not, are much much more pretty than straight shapeless ones. And here’s where I say, I hate my sister lol.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

      I hope we can make an impact on how young girls feel about their bodies.

  7. November 7, 2013 at 7:46 pm #

    Love this post!!! Bless the hearts of the poor teenage girls who find self worth in a thigh gap! (Which in my opinion is the bigger issue.) However … lest we not forget, after you push out kids (I pushed out twins) your hips can spread! So yes my (very average, dimply) thighs do not touch … but that’s only to thanks the process of child birth. I would never boast around my thigh gap, because in reality there is not the muscle tone or strength that would determine my body strong. Bottome line, everybody is different, so heaven forbid we hold everyone to the same unrealistic standard!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

      I love your bottom line — everybody is different, ain’t no thang!

  8. catmich3
    November 7, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

    Open and closed case here. If you have or haven’t got a gap, embrace the fact that you have the ability to stand up, look in the mirror and love the reflection. What’s your option? Try being paralyzed and unable to stand on your own to pull on a pair of yoga pants……#getreal

  9. November 7, 2013 at 10:23 pm #

    Yes!!! I LOVED this! I hate when I see body types becoming a trend, making it impossible for most women to achieve them. We should all have the chance to understand our genetics, body types, and what’s physically possible to obtain before setting goals. This was amazing to read.
    Oh, and the statement from Lulu made me sick. This guy is selling workout clothes to WOMEN and he said that.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:08 pm #

      Yes yes YES to all of that, Melissa!

  10. November 8, 2013 at 3:47 am #

    Love this, I am a cyclist. Proud to say I have no gap. Just strong, strapping shapely thighs 😉

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      Can’t go wrong with strong, strapping, shapely thighs!

  11. Krista
    November 8, 2013 at 8:54 am #

    Love it! Absolutely love it. :’)

  12. November 8, 2013 at 10:49 am #

    This is one of the best things I’ve ever read! I have never, and never will have a thigh gap (nor do I want one). It has admittedly taken me a long time, but I do love my big ol’ quads. Thigh gap shmigh gap, I’d rather be able to squat my body weight, thank you very much!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:10 pm #

      Love that love you got for your leggies! That is the way forward (literally).:)

  13. November 8, 2013 at 10:55 am #

    I love that you wrote this and laid it out well. When I was younger, I noticed my thighs touched and thought it was a big deal in a negative way as my other middle school girl class mates had skinny legs. Not until recent articles, such as this one, I didn’t realize how widespread this worry was among women and that the worry has a name. Glad people are taking ownership of the term and educating on it in a good way. Info like this needs to start at an even younger age. I hated I had big legs back then but now my calves receive many random compliments. If only I had known at age 10 what I know now…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

      If only, right?? So much worry for naught.

  14. November 8, 2013 at 11:40 am #

    That article about pelvis dimensions *really* resonated with me. Thank you for that. The first time I had to do weighted squats in a (Crossfit) gym I wanted to cry. I loved the deadlift right away, but that stupid squat was my nemesis. And I get so tired of people saying “Well people in Northeast Asia squat all the time.” Well, great, by I’m not from there! I can squat now, but it’s not all pretty like Neghar Fonooni. And furthermore, I don’t think it’s true that all kids can squat from birth either. I couldn’t and my son can’t. There is an anatomical factor at play that’s difficult if not impossible to factor out.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm #

      Yep, no one thing is true for everyone, and more personal trainers would do well to heed that fact.

  15. November 8, 2013 at 11:53 am #

    So, my mom actually used this in a pep-talk when I was in high school. I was depressed because I had big (DD) saggy boobs and jiggly thighs. Not even kidding, this is how the pep talk went:

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your boobs are saggy?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “You lift up your boob, put a pencil under it, drop your boob, and if the pencil stays, you have saggy boobs.”

    The penciled stayed.

    Mom: “You know how you can tell if your thighs are fat?”
    Me: “No.”
    Mom: “Stand with your legs together and you should have three holes. One at your ankles, one at your knees and one at the top of your thighs.”

    I had no holes, not one.

    To this day I give her a hard time, “Really, that was your pep-talk to a 14yo? How could you *not* tell that I was going to fail those tests.”

    Mom: “I don’t know.” …laughs.

    My mom actually is really nice, she’s a riot. I call her the “Rosey Show”

    See you at the Radiance Retreat in Jan!

  16. Amanda Nardo
    November 8, 2013 at 11:58 am #

    I think it’s wonderful that you are helping women to have realistic expectations of their body type, but please keep in mind that women like myself who are Ectomorph body type are not “String-beany”… your tone conveys some negativity toward that physique.

    • November 8, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

      Good point, and I’ve got nothing but love for ectos. I shall change it to “lithe” this instant.:)

      • Amanda Nardo
        November 8, 2013 at 12:47 pm #

        Thank you! As you mention, and I completely agree with you, that Ectomorph body types have the downfall of having trouble putting on fat OR muscle. I’m sure some women consider this a highly coveted body type since its usually the one plastered all over media, but I am one of the weakest female cross fitters in my gym… by a LOT. Looking forward to reading more of your work 🙂

  17. Sarah
    November 8, 2013 at 12:31 pm #

    Yep – sounds familiar! I’ve been an athlete my entire life playing countless sports as a kid, in high school, college and adult. My older sister is an ectomorph and always would talk about the thigh gap (just said space between her thighs back in the day) and said “means I have perfect legs.” I didn’t care – I had muscular legs and still do! (well kind of right now as I’m due with my third and last baby any day now). My legs can kick butt and I’m down with that! Thanks for posting this – and explaining not every female will have this!! And BTW…I’ve gotten many compliments about the size of my calves to go along with my thighs over the years…

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:14 pm #

      I hear ya — I call my calves “cows” — proudly! 😀

    • Amanda
      June 25, 2015 at 12:57 pm #

      I’m with you! I may not have a ton of upper body strength, but don’t let me get my legs around you or you’re in trouble! I have very strong muscular legs. I’m a size 14 and yet the doctors consider me “obese” because of my weight to height ratio. But they fail to take into account the fact that muscle weighs more than fat and there’s no way to differentiate between the two. I was just built bigger, and I’m okay with that! I do need to lose a little weight, but I need to be happy with who I am.

  18. November 8, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    Not to mention that fat on your thighs (and hips) is actually the healthy kind of fat and may be protective of certain diseases!
    I’ve lost a lot of weight recently, and the first place I lose weight is my thighs. I’m one of those weird people who have a thigh gap now (not sure why, I’m certainly not an ectomorph) and when I first noticed I was not happy! I wanted to look strong and my legs were looking way too skinny compared to the rest of me. Then I learn that the fat that I don’t have (and probably never will) is the healthy kind. The stuff I have in abundance (stomach/ upper body) is the unhealthy kind. To me, this is far worse than not having a thigh gap.
    But I’m learning to love my body, I’ve been strength training and dem quadz are very visible now ;).
    I think we all need to learn to accept and work with (not against) what we’ve got. Be the best version of you, sure, but don’t compare that to anyone else.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:15 pm #

      You said it — the best version of yourself is the goal! 🙂

  19. November 8, 2013 at 5:17 pm #

    Im starting to get so annoyed by this ‘perfect shape’ ideal in the fitness world (so please forgive me for venting my feelings here). Fitness was about being healthy and strong, but now its as though we all should be competing for ‘miss universe (close to pornographied) ‘check how sexy I am’ ‘-titles (or the sexiest pic).
    Fitness should be about feeling great. Not about feeling insecure.

    In my opinion there should be no ideal perfect standard in fitness because, like in any other sport, it is about PERSONAL achievements and not beauty-pageants. What I love about lifting is that you focus on your own body. You learn to work it, to feed it, to care for it, to strengthen it, to love it. My work out is my ME-time; the only time I let myself go in personal vanity (looking in the mirror and thinking: “hey girl, those boring heavy pistols are really paying off!”) and -other, less shallow- personal goals. Its not about wanting to look like someone else, it’s about wanting to look like MY strong self ;). Yet even I sometimes tend to forget that when getting ‘motivated’ by looking at ‘motivational’ pics of fitness models in gyms wearing thongs (wtf is that about?).

    It’s so ironic to me, this ‘thigh-gap’ thing.. cause normally I actually feel insecure sometimes when I look at ‘ideal standard fitness bods’, wondering how I can train my legs and bum to get more bulky (“ohmy I want a big firm bum like that!”). Cause I actually HAVE the thigh gap. I have long skinny legs and a small bum (GENES!) and do double ‘leg ‘n glute- days’ because I want to be less skinny in those regions (personal goal). And now this? Suddenly my personal ‘body-trait’ is being glorified? (Gisele Bündchen suddenly has ‘the most amazing fit body’ too, apparently. There Im looking at her nudie pic thinking: “I was feeling insecure about what people suddenly think is ‘amazing and fit’? -Shoot me”)

    It just proves to me some parts of the fitness industry are as perverted like any other money-making commercialized industry (fashion, cosmetics, Hollywood). I dont trust any fitness website telling me how I should look or else I should look at my training schedule (or buy it from them to ‘look like this hot girl’).

    Again: training is working on your own body and strength. Muscles, fat, skeleton: the way it works and can be built all have to do with GENES. I’m so glad with this post Jen (and Molly); cause you’re making that perfectly clear here. Girls (women!); keep on training, know your body, don’t let the BS bring you down; It has nothing to do with our personal hard work, sweat, results, pride, pleasure and satisfaction 🙂 🙂

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:16 pm #

      YES. Fitness should be about feeling GREAT!

  20. November 8, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Jen, your post is such a welcome answer to this:, which I just saw yesterday. I love how you approached this conversation from both a scientific and psychological mindset. We are all unique and beautiful. Thank you for celebrating this.

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:17 pm #

      Thanks, Danielle! I think it’s important to approach these issues logically.

  21. Tammy
    November 8, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    I agree. I have to laugh. My hubby says the most attractive on women are when you can see daylight, but not the whole day. haha. Just had to add that.

  22. Dar234
    November 8, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    After two years of working out and training for triathlon, just this week I noticed my thighs touching!! My legs have shape and look better than ever, and I’m getting rid of what I thought was my gap because I had boney legs!! Great article!

    • November 15, 2013 at 10:18 pm #

      Congrats on your athletic achievements!

  23. Marissa
    November 9, 2013 at 10:11 am #

    I appreciate you. xoxo

  24. Marcie
    November 9, 2013 at 4:12 pm #

    Even in high school. About 60 lbs ago. I had “soccer thighs”
    I expect when i get to a healthier weight they will still be there. In all their glory!

  25. November 11, 2013 at 6:06 pm #

    This is beautiful. Thank you for showing that a thigh gap isn’t the most important thing on our bodies! I would much rather be strong, healthy and muscular than be weak and “skinny”. I have a slight thigh hap and I’m trying to fill it in!

    • someone
      November 14, 2013 at 3:14 pm #

      I am healthy, slim, strong and I have a thigh gap due to my bone structure. I cycle a lot and I run a lot. Stop generalising and associating thigh gaps with weakness. Personally, I think that my thigh gap makes me more attractive (not saying you have to feel the same though, everyone is entitled to their own opinion of what looks good).

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Thanks, Leigha! It’s definitely not the most important thing, or at all important, for that matter.

      Let’s do keep in mind that there are plenty of strong women who show the gap, too, though. It’s based on pelvic shape, tendon length and body type, not strength.

  26. November 13, 2013 at 11:50 am #

    Wonderfully put!!

  27. someone
    November 14, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    Ok, maybe thigh gaps are not the most important thing in the world, but who dictates what body parts are important “enough”? I think that we should stop being so obsessed with women’s bodies in general.

    With that said, I am one of the people who think that thigh gaps are attractive, but since i have one myself I am probably biased. However, I didn’t have one until I started running and cycling and became more fit.

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

      Thigh gaps are attractive. So are the lack of thigh gaps.:)

  28. Lindsey
    November 15, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    This post is great…..BUT I think you should be mindful that SOME ladies will have a gap no matter what; basically, shaming those who are naturally quite thin, or just who naturally have skinny legs, is not cool. Love all bodies! All healthy, well-fed bodies are good!!!

    • November 15, 2013 at 9:54 pm #

      Hi, Lindsey,
      We are in fully agreement — ALL healthy, well-fed bodies are good. Which is why this post has not a thing to do with shaming anyone. A couple excerpts:

      Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, “real women,” “There is no wrong way to have a body.” Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.

      It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — “loving what is.”

  29. November 17, 2013 at 9:34 am #

    Wow, I think this is a great post and I think you did a good job of not disparaging anyone, but just reminding us that it’s more than diet and exercise that determine how a woman’s body looks, and more so, there are a myriad of ways to be healthy and beautiful. As someone who once struggled with an eating disorder, the whole thigh gap thing used to be on my mind a lot and now I try not to compare myself to other women when it comes to that. I found that once I started recovering and using food and exercise to my advantage (i.e. eating and eating well and exercising for pleasure not punishment), my body fell into a comfortable, healthy weight that I kind of really love. I don’t know what I weigh but I know I’m more comfortable in my own skin now than I ever was.

  30. November 18, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    Oh man I’d been dreaming of closing my thigh gap for years! I’m about as ectomorphic as you could possibly imagine and it was a huge goal of mine.

    70 pounds later I finally closed it … and started having to repair/replace my jeans every few months 😛

  31. November 18, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

    Also, what part of the pelvic bone are people prodding with their fingers up there? I’m anatomically feeling really stupid right now. Am I supposed to be able to fit a couple fingers into some part of it to figure out which type of pelvis I have?

  32. Lori
    November 27, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

    Anyone who spends any time wondering or worrying about whether they have a thigh gap or not or how to get one probably either a) is 13 years old and/or b) really needs to get a life…volunteering with less fortunate people, homeless animals, or something else that actually adds meaning to her life. Really.

  33. December 11, 2013 at 11:33 am #

    Hey Jen, this is great. I’ve taking a short “leave of absence” from training after I made a decision to give more education + more support. Which means I get to do more research + more writing. I’ve been following you a long time, + look – you came up in my research about this – ‘the thigh gap”. Thanks for putting out great content + being fun to follow on social medai too.

  34. December 17, 2013 at 7:04 pm #

    LOVE! Thanks so much for putting in the time and energy to research this…

  35. Gonvis
    January 13, 2014 at 12:43 pm #

    Thanks for being a positive, inspirational figure for us teens! x

  36. January 22, 2014 at 10:37 am #

    The thigh gap is something that I mentally struggled with all through high school and early adult hood. It took a lot of self love to reach a point where I said this is my body, these are my genes, and this is what I have to work with. Obesity runs rampant in my family. Even myself I worked my way down from 250 lbs to 149 lbs (I’m 5’9). It wasn’t about getting skinny anymore or seeking some media idea of what I should look like, it was about health and strength. Having lost so much weight though while my thighs don’t have a gap I don’t get the chaffing and rawness from it anymore. Even with all the mental work I’ve done accepting myself I still need to read these kinds of articles though. Thank you so much for helping those of us blessed in the thigh region feel at peace with what we have.

  37. Courtney
    January 31, 2014 at 5:40 pm #

    I have the thigh gap because I’ve got the naturally skinny body type and it sucks it’s so hard to gain any muscle and I want this thigh gap out of my life

  38. Holly
    February 8, 2014 at 3:05 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and I absolutely hate it, my legs don’t touch at all and I think they look disgusting. I can’t seem to put on any fat on my thighs and everyone at school ‘wants a thigh gap so bad’ where as I would do literally anything to have legs that touch in the middle and be curvy like everyone else. I hate my thigh gap, and get quite annyoed at the hype about them.

  39. Julie
    March 2, 2014 at 2:09 pm #

    How about we embrace our natural healthy bodies? I do not, nor never will (even being at the healthiest I have ever been) have a thigh gap and love my body as it was made to be. TRULY healthy, which admittedly looks different for every body, should be our goal.

  40. Mya
    March 2, 2014 at 10:17 pm #

    Who every decided that thigh gaps were a desirable trait? I have NEVER heard anyone accept women worry bout having a thigh gap. Like where did this even start? I was on tumblr for the first time last year and I was hit in the face with nothing but people asking me how I obtained my thigh gap and I’m like wtf? I was born this way? Like people are staving themselves to look like bean poles. I just don’t get it. I hope that fad dies out.

  41. Jill
    March 5, 2014 at 5:55 pm #

    I want less muscle toned and more from fat but I can’t gain any weight on my thighs, it all goes to my stomach to the point where I have skinny legs but a gut that makes me look pregnant. How do I avoid that?

    • Irene
      March 12, 2014 at 9:36 am #

      The stomach is a bit of problem for me too. The worst thing is wearing hip huger pants which accentuate the tummy. Look for pants with a true waist (almost impossible to find these days).

  42. Jennifer
    March 11, 2014 at 4:54 am #

    i dont understand why i have thigh gaps naturally and my friends is pretty jealous of me. is it possibly because of genetics?but my aunts and mom dont really have it.mine is more tired of how people say im lucky to have it and they are so jealous of me.what’s so good about thigh gaps? i dont understand why people is so desperate about thigh gaps…ugh

  43. Irene
    March 12, 2014 at 9:11 am #

    I naturally have thigh gap and have always hated it. I have been picked on and degraded about being “skinny” all my life. Why is it okay for someone to call me skinny, but it is not okay for me to call them fat? At 5′ 3″, 118 lbs. I have a nice figure (36D naturally), exercise, eat healthy, take no medications and the thigh gap is still there. And I’m 70 years old!

    • March 12, 2014 at 10:42 am #

      Irene, re: your question about why one is OK and the other isn’t, I would argue that it ISN’T OK for someone to pick on you about your size. It isn’t cool going either direction.

      • Irene
        March 12, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

        Thanks, Jen. I always wanted to ask that question. Enjoy your day.

  44. Ashley
    March 20, 2014 at 12:23 am #

    This is so awesome!!! I never ever heard of a thigh gap until a friend of mine got in a fight with he boyfriend over something and he had asked name 3 things I’ve said that make you feel bad about your image. One of them was if her legs touched he would make her not eat as much junk food and hit the gym. I’m like what the hell is that about so I asked my boyfriend and he told me about the thigh gap. Fortunate for her she can achieve this some what healthily. Yet why the hell does it matter if your thighs touch or not. I have never heard if a guy getting upset over a thigh gap before. After reading this I’m happy with my legs and my thighs and I’m blessed to have a man who doesn’t give a crap about whether or not my thighs touch. This whole thing is crazy!!! I would total send a picture if I had Facebook! Let’s get some women to see that having a thigh gap is totally crazy! Thanks for this!

  45. Linda
    March 20, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    Thank you! I am a natural stick person and I’ve been terribly self-conscious about it my whole life, feeling like I have to prove that I’m not a bitch or anorexic to strangers all the time. And feeling embarrassed for my boyfriend. My lack of hips and bottom half curves have always made me feel like a boy or less than a woman, exacerbated by “curvy vs. thing” BS “debate.” Body types should not be a bipartisan issue. Thankfully, I’ve gotten over this quite a bit. Humor is the best aid, it ain’t my fault I’m a pooping machine from a lanky Russian g-pa and petite Irish g-ma.

    I used to make the joke that everyone wants to cuddle up to sharp right angles…however after just now learning about this “trend” from the Colbert Report and doing some social media investigation, I see “sharp 90 degree angles” could be hash tagged as “thinspo” or “perfection.” WHAT?!

    Watching the Colbert Report I was forehead slapping with an open jaw. I’ve always been embarrassed by the fact that my legs are sticks that don’t touch, opting for pants and dresses that create the illusion of more meat.

    Of course, it’s the grass is always greener conundrum. But at the same time us women should help each to realize that unrealistic goals like being so skinny or always looking young are perpetuated precisely because they are unattainable. Making an insatiable appetite for consuming products. Put simpler, it’s all about making money and we women need to remember we are not tool bags!!! Starting first with not feeding into ANY discussion or “debate” on what is the right, healthy or ideal body-type unless it’s with a medical professional.

    Women power to ALL skeletal structures!

  46. Allison
    March 30, 2014 at 4:15 pm #

    Love this info! I was laughing so hard at Dem Quadz. My confidence has sky rocketed since finding such strong, inspirational women to look up to. Thanks for all you do!

  47. Joni
    April 1, 2014 at 1:40 pm #

    I really appreciate this article. I am an ectomorph so I am naturally very thin and have a thigh gap. I never even noticed it until all this craze about thigh gaps started going around. I hate when people envy my body shape just because it is the current fad. I fully believe in being the healthiest you can be and being happy with your unique shape! A thigh gap or lack there of doesn’t make you beautiful – you ARE beautiful and need to accept that. Let’s focus on celebrating and encouraging each other and not envying :-).

    • July 16, 2014 at 12:35 pm #

      That’s exactly it — so much to celebrate, regardless of shape or size!

  48. a
    April 23, 2014 at 12:07 pm #

    I’m glad you mentioned skeletal structure but I am very disappointed that you didn’t mention the other standing positions. If you’re knock kneed or bow legged that also would effect weather you could get a gap or not. Also not all people are muscular and get very bulky from exercise. There are many different factors.

  49. Irene
    April 23, 2014 at 2:22 pm #

    I am so glad I looked at this site again. I guess I was born with this thigh gap and it will remain forever. Thanks to all who chimed in. I am now inspired to feel good about my thin legs. A long beach vacation is coming soon and I am going to feel just fine in a swimsuit. Here’s a tip for my thigh gap sisters: When being photographed in shorts or a swimsuit stand sideways toward the person taking the picture, then turn 1/4 turn toward them. Presto! Perfect legs. Try it in front of a full length mirror. You will be surprised how well this works. Enjoy your summer.

  50. Confused Person
    April 23, 2014 at 5:46 pm #

    But how do you CLOSE the gap. Haha, that’s what I was looking up. Good essay.. If you have any exercises on how to close it… That would be great.

  51. Irene
    April 23, 2014 at 7:34 pm #

    I don’t think you are ever going to close the gap if you were born with it unless you become a fatty overnight and then you will have worse problems. Just deal with it and enjoy this moment when the body obsessed are wishing they had it. Those that threw negative comments your way will now have to eat their words. You are perfect just the way you are!!!

  52. Sherri
    May 27, 2014 at 12:17 pm #

    I love the article. I am 45. I am strong, somewhat athletic, I walk, workout and golf a lot. I eat healthy and have great legs so my husband says. My thighs have rubbed and chaffed all my life. I have used powder and worse leggings and shorts under dresses since I was a teenager. When I was pregnant with my first child my doc told me I was lucky my pelvis was shaped that way since I would have an easier time with delivery. I delivered a very healthy 91/2 lb baby in 3 hours. So I guess he was right and 4 years later had a 8 lb baby in 1.5 hours. I haven’t complained about thighs rubbing every again. We are all different and should be happy to be different.

  53. Bethany
    June 12, 2014 at 8:16 pm #

    How do I get rid of my thigh gap! I’m 16 years old & I hate it! I’ve never really been able to put on any weight anywhere, except my tummy!

  54. June 25, 2014 at 4:46 pm #

    OMG I LOVE THIS. Thank you thank you thank you:)

  55. Allyssa
    July 4, 2014 at 7:32 pm #

    Im a Filipino. Before im so insecure to those have a thigh gaps.

    Haha but now im so happy to know this fact 😀

  56. Ashley
    July 16, 2014 at 12:23 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and we have measured and I have just as big of thighs as all my friends who don’t have thigh gaps. I was born with it but I still have curves and a nice body it’s really not fair for women who aren’t happy with their fat bodies to bash on girls who can’t help the way they are built. Everyone was made in Gods image so tennically we are all perfect.

    • July 16, 2014 at 12:36 pm #

      You just said it yourself. It’s about bone structure and body type, and celebrating ALL builds.

      From the post: “To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

  57. d
    July 26, 2014 at 11:24 am #

    i had a thigh gap, but i have gained weight, and i am currently losing it. HOw do i cope with this?

  58. Chelsea
    August 4, 2014 at 11:17 am #

    I LOVED this article. I have received so much criticism from my own mother about how I should have a thigh gap and that my thighs shouldn’t rub together. I am happy with my body-sure, I might have gained a few extra pounds lately-but i cannot ever remember when my thighs didn’t rub together.

    Basically I am wondering if you have any suggestions for me as to how I can tell my mother that not having a thigh gap is normal and that I shouldn’t strive to have one…? It’s super demeaning to hear constantly that I’m fat and it’s not normal for my thighs to rub together. Do you know of any other research that I could send to her to help her realize that I am beautiful the way I am?

    Thank you for your wonderful article!

  59. Karyn
    August 27, 2014 at 6:26 pm #

    I happen to like a ‘no-calf-gap’ on a man because I love a set of chunky, muscular calves, but for some reason I have been unable to find any information or articles at all. Ah, the ridiculous pressures of being a woman.

  60. Robina
    August 28, 2014 at 5:16 am #

    loved your article

  61. Alice
    August 29, 2014 at 1:05 pm #

    Some girls are super lucky the ones without a gap! i have a thigh gap and no matter how much i eat i can’t put on the weight and its the same with my brother. our parents think we are anorexic but we are not. Our bodies are just like that. and we have small stomachs so we can’t eat alot.

  62. Taylor
    November 13, 2014 at 1:17 pm #

    Hey, I’d just like to say that I really appreciate that you’re not hating on how the thigh gap looks. I do have one, and I’ve read many articles that say that it just looks bad anyway… I personally I’m not a fan of how it looks and wish I had a bit more meat on my bones. But I appreciate that you’re not saying that it looks bad, just that it’s not what makes a girl beautiful. I think a lot of girls need to find contentment in being healthy instead of yearning for what they don’t have. I’m working toward that now 🙂

    • Afshin Nejat
      November 13, 2014 at 10:12 pm #

      Right. It is not a specifically pressing issue for a truly Spiritual Person. Spiritual People don’t overly identify with their bodies. Bodies are loci of experience which are, by and large, painful and damaging to the persons connected with them. Trends in nature seem to set up a trap so that disparities are bound to occur, and a single being is/must become burdened with these. Nature, the evil force that it is, cares not at all for such errors, and doesn’t correct them. Only people correct them or correct for them. In the end, even this cannot last long without causing suffering in some form.

      A Real Person is first a Person, and this is a Spiritual Substance. It is always only secondarily a body, as bodies are simply expressive foci of the Spiritual Intention of the person. In this universe bodies are not properly correlated to the Best and Highest potentials of the Spiritual Persons which are connected with them. There is no point “hating” a specific type of body or bodily condition, especially not when we know a valued and valid Person may be connected with that condition. It is cruel and unjust.

      Nevertheless, it is occurring. In the time it is happening people should adapt so as to console themselves and each other that it is not permanent, and that a morally proper solution to all this can be discovered. If one is to adapt psychologically in a healthy way to these conditions while enduring them, it is best to revert one’s consciousness toward all things back into something more like that of a prepubescent child. That’s what all the valid Spiritual Teachings enjoin people to do.

  63. Calypso
    December 1, 2014 at 2:02 am #

    Haha thanks for this! I’m in middle school… 7th grade infact! And me and one of my best friends are runners. Well my best friend has a thigh gap and I don’t so one day a person walked up to me and said (another runner by the way) “your not ever going to be good at running! You don’t have a thigh gap!” Well, me and another un-thigh gaped friend (another runner) sure showed them when we beat them in the next competion! Just goes to show…… You can do anything no matter what you look like because how you feel is really all that matters!

    • Karyn
      December 24, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

      That’s awesome, Calypso.

  64. bulky1
    December 4, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

    Frankly I can’t understand this gap crap. I think personally it’s disgusting. :s It’s gross. If you have a gap that’s bad. I mean you can have huge legs and still have a health gap so I just can’t understand why so many women girls whatever want this. Thin gross skinny legs 😛 blah … plz plz get some meat on you. Look all you have to do is not strut around all day looking nice sit yo ass at home once in a while doing squats and leg lunges and stretch feel good feel sexy .. Thus you will be sexy. feeling sexy is key. Mens loves meat.

    Nice buns and thick thick thighs :3 Mmmmm. Yeah. If you don’t believe me go up to any man and you see some thick booty bitch around point out to her and he’ll be talking to you in 1 second flat. My word. .. Now why because GUYS are all about shape 😉 And the size of the shape. We like to put them together and fit them in places see if this works there or doesn’t yeah guess it’s the whole having a stick thing. It’s in our nature and if YOU.. ladies can’t deal then why the pardon me are you here in the first place? Deal get real.

    If you can dig follow this then you get it if not you haven’t been never will be there. So forget this and move on as you’ll never get thick if you can’t get that.

    • Amy Beckford
      June 20, 2016 at 7:35 am #

      Hi, please look at your own body before judging others, you sound like you have a penis the size of a jellybean I’m js. Also our bodies do not exist for what illiterate “mens” want, so please take your opinions elsewhere thanks.

  65. bulky1
    December 4, 2014 at 3:04 pm #

    Afshin Nejat… Uh Wrong. The body is the vessel in which the energy is carried it means if and even more than. It’s your reparations of that which lays in you. Young health vital vibrant then that is what lays within. As is above is below. It means also as in is without. What’s out lays within. Don’t give me that crap about beauty and the beast stuff that was trickery and such which is a false giving to be true to others and show the true self without any other thought or forgiving. Just baring your inside on the out is true self. Jesus huh was one there were many before him just in different ways in which they did so. Though many can’t sustain such a presence for very long. I had. For about a year.

    It takes massive amounts of energy to command such a will. To bend your space and time around you and this world. The universe… Starting to get the picture. That means both neg and positive energy neg being the expense of that being created. There must always be. There is no good without the bad. In which way you defuse such neg energy is the choice you have to make. Mine was running and another method along side that while running. Also while creating good positive feed back. Making memories thoughts that would charge me .. Nothing neg – bad was to be let in if you can do that you can create your own place. Your world .. your universe .. now tell me that doesn’t take massive amounts of time and space.

    So next time your out and see someone strutting about they are most likely one of such character .. try going up to them and talking to them. You’ll be surprised.

  66. Chris
    December 21, 2014 at 12:10 pm #

    Great article. It’s the comments I’m struggling with. Some want the gap and others do not. Everyone, go look in the mirror and love what you see.

  67. January 6, 2015 at 6:58 pm #

    How do we know what type of pelvic structure we have? I’m trying to find balance and alignment and trying to understand why my left adductors aren’t quite as toned as my right? X could if be due to a pelvic tilt? X ps:

  68. January 6, 2015 at 6:59 pm #

    Ps* I’m so pleased ive found this page x thankyou

  69. Ceci
    January 31, 2015 at 1:46 pm #

    I have a large thigh gap (about 2 inches when I’m standing feet together, and it’s completely natural) and while it looks fantastic on me, it’s also kind of inconvenient. I can’t sit down in a short dress without flashing everyone! It matters not what your thighs or even the rest of your body looks like as long as you, the owner of it, likes it and you’re healthy. What isn’t good for anyone is saying that “real men only like thick girls” because that’s not true. What a man likes depends on what that individual likes. Just because a someone is thin doesn’t make her any less of a woman compared to any other woman. What’s important to women, men, and society as a whole is to love thyself as one would like to be loved.

  70. Sassy
    February 9, 2015 at 12:19 pm #

    It’s easy for women with thigh gaps to criticize and make fun of women without. But it’s a real problem for some of us – especially Black women – who have touching thighs. For one, there is an excessive amount of melanin production there leaving us with unsightly and embarrassing black inner thighs. It also makes our girly bits extremely black as well. Not to mention lots of chaffing especially when we sweat. Yes there are creams and other ‘remedies’ out there but honestly? those are just more routines to add to our already existing ones. So I say it would be just wonderful if I had a thigh gap and in fact am currently researching cosmetic solutions.

  71. Nikki
    February 14, 2015 at 10:04 am #

    I started wanting to have thigh gaps this year , I heard from my bro that thigh gap will make girls much prettier . Ever since then I kept checking if a girl has thigh gap and ALOT of my friends has it which makes me think I’m fat . But I went for research and they said you would have a higher chance of having thigh gaps if your hips is wider . My body type is mesomorph ! Idk why but when I read about it , I feel proud ! HAHAHAAA it was weird for me but now I stop being obsessing over thigh gaps ! Thank you so much !

  72. Jay Lane
    March 5, 2015 at 11:23 am #

    Jen, I really enjoyed your article. You’ve done a very well job at conducting a nearly 100% unbiased work of art that I believe every woman who is struggling with their self image should read. However, you’ve brought to life, I think, a negative connotation to having thigh gap. I’d like to take a moment to say my girlfriend of 8 years, to whom I bore child with, has a thigh-gap and she thinks it’s “unsexy”. Regardless of whether or not I find it sexy is beside the point. What I want to point out is that she thinks it’s unsexy because of the “#close the gap” movement. The movement shouldn’t have that affect on any girl. Instead of it promoting self-love and appreciation, it’s promoting a flame war between the two extremes. “If you have a thigh gap you’re attractive/ if you have thigh gap you’re unattractive.” These extremes shouldn’t exist, but the “#close the gap” gives life to these extremes and cultivates them. I feel, you shouldn’t fight “girl power” with “girl power” it’s not a good way to win a war and it only results in unnecessary casualties. I applaud what you’ve written, and am very supportive of both sides, everyone has a right to be proud of who they are, but not at the expense of someone else. I move to have the movement renamed: “Love yourself” (add a hash-tag if you’d like).

    • March 5, 2015 at 11:48 am #

      I agree that thigh gaps are cool, non-thigh gaps are cool. I’m not trying to pit either side against the other. The hashtag is just a word play on the common phrase “close the gap.”

      See these excerpts from the post:

      -“To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

      -“I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.”

      -“Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — ‘loving what is.'”

      My point was to point out that this isn’t a goal that is feasible for everyone, and to not let your self-worth be wrapped up in it one way OR the other. Apologies for any confusion — we are on the same page.:)

      • Jay Lane
        March 5, 2015 at 12:32 pm #

        Thank you for responding and honestly, I might be portraying my point in the wrong light and to the wrong person. You are not the enemy; you’ve reinforced my beliefs on the matter 100%. My issue with the “#close the gap” isn’t necessarily governable; but when someone, with or without a thigh gap, bullies someone, with or without a thigh gap, the only result is pain and a question of one’s self-worth. I am only trying to convey that message: love yourself, stop bullying. And, I understand that you, and I, have already made that point and in no way do I think we have differentiating stances on the matter. But I felt those exact words, in that exact manner needed to be said: “love yourself.” As W. Shakespeare once said, “To gap or not to gap, it really isn’t up to us.” Thanks again.

      • Jay Lane
        March 5, 2015 at 1:15 pm #

        I’ve been reading the comments, and your responses, and it only affirms what I thought about you; you’re the voice of reason in this flame war. Thank you, for everything you’ve said and done to try and mediate between the two sides. I appreciate it.

        • March 24, 2015 at 11:20 am #

          Thank you, Jay! Very much appreciated.:) Shouldn’t even be two sites pitted against each other – all bodies are good bodies!

  73. Abigael
    March 5, 2015 at 5:23 pm #

    I try to be happy with the way I look and I’m content with everything except my thighs. My thigh gap is too big; not enough thighs. I don’t like going in public wearing jeans and I usually wear skirts or dresses to hide my skinny legs the best I can. I can’t find my size anywhere and I don’t like to wear tight pants that will show how skinny I am, but I can’t wear baggy clothes either, it doesn’t look good at all. I thought this article was interesting, even though it wasn’t what I was looking for. I’ve been working on making my thighs bigger, and I’ve been searching for tips and tricks, but I’ve found nothing so far. Any advice?

  74. sarah
    March 17, 2015 at 6:49 am #

    I have a thigh gap does that mean i have a loose vagina ?

    • March 17, 2015 at 12:56 pm #

      Ummmm, nope! This post attracts the dangedest questions….:)

  75. March 17, 2015 at 10:02 pm #

    Regarding the woman who asked if “thigh gap” meant lax (loose) vagina; although a separate matter, it is also an important one. Weak perineal muscles can mean everything from urinary incontinence, to lessened sexual pleasure (for the woman, and her partner), to a diminished sense of personal power. No thanks. She may wish to get herself a set of “jade eggs” (large, medium and small; one progresses from using the larger, to the smaller, with practice), for doing effective internal exercises, or perhaps the”vaginal barbell”. Each woman has her preference, for what works best for her. The improvements (and the pleasure of having a “firm handshake”) are so wonderful, functionally and in restoration of self-confidence.

  76. isobel
    March 23, 2015 at 11:21 am #

    I have a thigh gap, I wasnt exactly sure what one was. mines totally natural. is it a bad thing? I was in pe and this girl ran past me and said ‘Thigh Gap’. I thought this was said in a bad way. so I looked into it. im still not sure…

    • March 24, 2015 at 11:19 am #

      You are absolutely perfect exactly as you are. <3

  77. WWW
    March 30, 2015 at 4:55 am #

    my personal experience.
    I have everything this fashion world wants nowadays. I have collar bones,thigh gap, clear abs, bikini bridge, even have very toned arms. I am tall and size 2US or 0US from high street brands ex. Gap. but not at all underweight as I have only around 16% bodyfat and muscle actually weigh much more then fat. sounds prefect right? and be jealous, I am in my 30’s and I get them effortlessly even though I do workout regularly for health but not to try to get all these.
    I do love my body because it is my own but the truth is, I never get any special attention because I ticked all the fashion boxes and I am not seen specially prettier then the other girls who don’t have all these “conditions”.. in the real world, no one is going to exam you in details to judge you. They look at you as a total package, and appreciate your own beauty if you show it.
    Whoever likes me, likes the way I am. whoever don’t, just don’t.. It is never because I have gap or bridge or whatever.

  78. Carolyn
    March 30, 2015 at 10:16 am #

    I used to be overweight (around 220 pounds). After spending 5 years losing the weight, I just acquired the thigh gap (not caring/not wanting/not attempting to achieve it). It just happened. I’m glad you can embrace your non-thigh gap, but any suggestions to close the thigh gap is still negatively suggesting that having one is bad. We are all built differently, and we can’t help what structure we end up with. I say…just be thankful you have legs, the end.

    • March 30, 2015 at 5:22 pm #

      Carolyn, I agree that it matters ZERO whether you have one or don’t.

      Thigh gaps are cool, non-thigh gaps are cool. I’m not trying to pit either side against the other. The hashtag is just a word play on the common phrase “close the gap.”

      See these excerpts from the post:

      -“To be clear, I don’t mind the gap itself. Bodies are bodies, and as Hanne Blank wrote in her fabulous essay, ‘real women,’ ‘There is no wrong way to have a body.’ Some legs touch, some legs don’t, la dee da. What I do mind, very much, is the marketing of the gap to women everywhere.”

      -“I’m suggesting that we consciously, joyously choose not to let one shred of our self worth be determined by what is — or is not — between our legs.”

      -“Any disparaging comments directed at those with or without a thigh gap will be promptly deleted. It ain’t really about the size of your thighs, it’s — to quote the philosopher Byron Katie — ‘loving what is.’”

      My point was to point out that this isn’t a goal that is feasible for everyone, and to not let your self-worth be wrapped up in it one way OR the other. Apologies for any confusion — we are on the same page.:)

  79. Nick
    April 1, 2015 at 8:03 am #

    Total madness, this fad. Well, any body-aspiration other than to be fit and healthy is madness, from slimming to body-building for the sake of it (as opposed to getting stronger for some goal). But this is just… weird. Like the ancient practice in China of breaking young girls’ foot bones to stunt the growth of their feet. It’s just self-harm.

  80. Angela
    April 7, 2015 at 2:21 pm #

    Glad I ran across this web page, I was getting ready for bed the other night my daughter commented to me that I have a leg gap.I had never heard of anyone saying that before. So when I was researching it I came across this and it is very informational.

  81. Christi
    April 7, 2015 at 2:54 pm #

    I have a thigh gap as due to my anatomical structure and I do everything I can to try to close it I think it looks horrible these people are crazy trying to have one. Embrace your thighs because I wish I had them

  82. April 11, 2015 at 10:37 am #

    I have been waiting alllll my life to read something like this!

    I’m 25, and since I lost my baby-fat at age 4, I’ve been thin/lithe. According to your diagram, I’m clearly an ectomorph, but I literally had no idea that “thigh gaps” were such an envied thing.

    My comments are mostly about ectomorphism. I remember growing up and having my peers/adults tell me that I’m too skinny, or I’m anorexic or saying I need to put more meat on my bones. In grade 7 and 8 when other girls were filling out, I was still thin and boyish. I vividly remember a curvy/athletic girl screaming “evil knees” at me when I wore shorts to school one day. I didn’t understand until I noticed almost everyone else’s knees touched and they didn’t have a space between their legs.

    Back then I didn’t see all the comments as bullying. They were annoying yes, but I didn’t realize how they were quietly whittling away at my self esteem. Even at 25 I get a lot of “omg, do you even eat” comments, and even though I eat way more than most people to stay fit and retain what muscle I have, its pretty pointless arguing/standing up for myself to people who don’t listen or can’t see past my figure. Its rude to talk about someone’s weight who is overweight..but when did it become okay to comment negatively about someone of a smaller weight/frame?

    My mother played a big part in how my self-esteem went down the toilet. Always telling me I needed to eat more, restricting what clothes I wore if it showed too much of my arms/legs and pretty much shaming me for being so skinny. I remember her telling me what weight I should be, what size clothing I should be wearing, and constantly buying me things “to grow into”. But it never happened. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that I said enough was enough and started doing what I wanted to do and wearing what I wanted to wear in spite of what people said or how they looked at me. I dress fairly conservatively anyways, so I really don’t see why some individuals act so offended when they see a thin person enjoying their thinness.

    We read a lot about women not wanting to be bullied for their weight or curves; fat-shaming they call it. And I agree, it IS wrong. But to reinforce their point, they start attacking thin women. I’ve seen countless pictures/memes with the words “men like curves, dogs like bones”. How did that become okay? To the young girls who are naturally thin, what does that say to them? How are they going to react?

    I will agree, some women (in the fashion industry, for example) are too thin, to the point that its unhealthy for them. Society/the media has had a hand in warping minds to believe that skinny is what’s beautiful. But society doesn’t (or shouldn’t) have the power to dictate what’s right and wrong. It should be our responsibility to empower/teach our children and not let them be swayed by whatever the media is spitting out. So the thigh gap is the latest fad? So be it. Just like any other fad, it will fade away. Some naturally have it, others don’t. Some may achieve it, but others won’t even bother trying. I DIDN’T want mine for the longest time…but there isn’t anything I can do about it. And I’m okay with that. I’m healthy, and that’s what is important.

    So thank you, Jen for this article! I’ve re-gained some of my self-esteem from reading this and some of the comments.

    • Amanda
      July 31, 2015 at 3:22 pm #


      I had a friend like you when I was younger. Her and I were on the opposite spectrum. While she was a size zero rail, and the rest of our friends were 2’s and 4’s, here I was in my most active days a size 7. I have always just been a little bit bigger. For a long time I have looked down on myself as being fat. The Doctors say I’m obese, but a lot of my mass is muscle. I do gain weight in the mid section VERY easily. But the rest of me is very muscular. I think many more women than we think are self conscious of their size their weight, what they look like, hair color, latest trends. I have started a very personal campaign. I always say that each one of us has a super power and we do. We hold the power to build up and the power to tear down:
      Proverbs 12:16
      The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them.
      Proverbs 16:24
      Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.

      And so I do my best to pay a compliment to at LEAST one woman per day. No matter their size shape or color. I compliment their hair, their skin tone their clothes or make up or even just the fact that they are beautiful. We hold the power along with every other woman to change the way we feel about ourselves, but also each other. We have the opportunity to fight these industry relevant mindsets by showing them that we are beautiful women and that we don’t care what they think. The more we don’t care, the less men will care too. Each man was made for a specific taste for a specific woman (yes I believe in soulmates) and they let themselves follow an industry to chase after what is popular rather than what they truly desire or think is beautiful. If we fight that industry “standard” we are not only fighting for ourselves, but for them too.

  83. jflh
    April 18, 2015 at 11:29 am #

    Always thought something was wrong with me because no matter how much weight i drop there’s these monster thighs, they must love me because they don’t want to go away. This article definitely made me feel better about myself

  84. Shell
    May 5, 2015 at 5:19 pm #

    No gap here! Frankly I’m quite happy because my legs don’t get as sore when I’m riding ;P

  85. Loving This!
    May 13, 2015 at 9:41 pm #

    This article is everything women, young and old, need in this day and age. We are all too focused on gaps and not enough on just being healthy and happy. Mostly I’d love to send this to my jerk of an ex bf who would always want me to lose weight and have a thigh gap. He even followed a YouTube person who had gap day and would post pics of girls with thigh gaps once a week. It sickened me and made me feel horrible. No surprise he’s single now. Thank you for this. Even though it’s something I knew on a basic level, it’s nice to hear.

  86. Ashley
    May 14, 2015 at 11:42 pm #

    I am twenty now, but when I was just 16 my supposed “best friends” told me that even though my boobs were a disappointment (as a late developer I was at the time barely fitting into a 12A) at least I had nice legs with a thigh gap. For the next three years I spent half my time worrying over the state of my chest, and the other half trying to keep that “perfect” shape to my legs. Throughout high school all that I ever seemed to hear was people telling me that I wouldn’t be happy unless I kept to my perfect weight (at the time barely 50kg) but had bigger boobs so I could find a “boyf”.
    I’m now slowly coming to terms with my weight at 66kg, and the fact that I will never be bigger then a 12B (throwing out my booster bras was the first step!). I workout regularly and haven’t seen a gap between my thighs in over 12months.
    I wish that I had found a cause like this in my high school years, and hope that it will help change the lives of all young girls.

  87. Meghan
    May 16, 2015 at 7:31 am #

    Hello, I have a thigh gap and it’s not making me a better person. You people need to realize a thigh gap is a serious problem if you have one. First of all people call you skinny and chicken legs. Second, people think your starving yourself. But this is all because you have a natural thigh gap, but your perfectly healthy. But if you don’t have a thigh gap and you really want one, I’d reconsider because your only making your body unhealthy. If you have no problem gaining muscle and fat, congrats! Your just the type of person I need to be. I am a athlete and I need more muscle tone and I don’t need a thigh gap getting in the way of toning my thighs. The “thigh gap” has made me a horrible person. If you want one reconsider for me. People may just call you weakling, chicken legs, and so forth. Go for a more it muscle toned body, its what natural humans are going for anyways. If you have a muscle toned body your way healthier and you have a very decreased chance of deathly diseases later in life. So go for the muscles not the chicken legs.

  88. sanna
    May 16, 2015 at 10:41 am #

    I’m really upset because of thigh gap n knees gap.. how can I reduce the thigh gap and knees gap?

  89. www
    May 17, 2015 at 1:30 pm #

    this is for JODI actually.. if you “unfortunately” still stay very thin after 30 or even more, the larger people will attack you not only your health, beauty, attraction etc but also your personality, family, life style etc lol ex. skinny after certain age means you are a mean person while they are laid back and nice so gain weight naturally; being skinny after certain age makes face look older and uglier (which is so not true btw) or pick up any of your life styles or family problems which everyone has some in life..but to them everything can be explained to be the cause of you being skinning(in the bad way), the worse is, when they see you eating pizzas, burgers, they suspect and discuss about you being bulimia at your back…..
    but well, I can totally understand and have a laugh at it now, main part of reasons for all these attacks, bullies and body shaming are out of jealousy we can not deny no matter how hard people try to value “curves”, by far being skinny still get much more recognitions as beauty in the world, you can easily see from fashion, tv, movies, magazines.. and in another way, it is true that lots of people choose to be skinny and force themselves to stay so through an unhealthy way which shouldn’t be encouraged while it is very rare that anyone would force themselves to become very is not really by choice normally… that is why people feel so free that they can bully or body shaming skinny people publicly while they won’t do the same to the larger people.. they don’t want to accept that some people are just so skinny naturally.
    and another thing I have been wanting to say is being bigger does’t mean being curvier if the tummy is as big as boobs!! it is another way of being straight up and down but in a much larger scale lol… what curvy means is ex. SKINNY Scarlett Johansson in dress size 2-4US but with a DD cup! :))

  90. Nathany
    June 11, 2015 at 4:08 pm #

    Hey guys ,
    I have actually a thigh gap and i HATE it 😭 i’m born with it and i cant get rid of it ..


  91. June 29, 2015 at 9:21 pm #

    i have a thigh gap and by saying no to it does that mean i am of any less value? will i be looked down at in society for my ‘thigh gap’?? the picture at the end says that those without thigh gaps are closer to being mermaids and then questions who is the real winner? are you saying people with thigh gaps should automatically put wieght on or close the gap some how and that they’re actually losers.. posts like these should stop completely cause as you can see.. clearly not everyone will be happy by the outcome of the message

  92. Ellia
    July 18, 2015 at 9:00 pm #

    I have a thigh gap, i have all of my life according to all of my family pictures. I love this post but that last picture was offensive to those who naturally have thigh gaps. I cant gain very muh weight but it is still good to see that everyone loves themselves. I have come to terms with my thighs and honestly wish my thighs touch but they are mine and they are like children, no matter what they look like, I love them <3

  93. Haley
    July 30, 2015 at 6:27 pm #

    I have a thigh gap and I really don’t like it. I try so hard but I just can’t. I am an ectomorph and I want to be a mesomorph. SOMEONE HELP

    • Peggy
      January 15, 2016 at 5:34 pm #

      Me too!!

  94. Darla ng
    August 9, 2015 at 6:33 pm #

    Thank you so much for the article. All of my family has very thin legs, it’s
    genetic. My mother was obese, but had a “thigh gap.” Go figure. I have been called chicken legs and numerous other things. Finding pants to fit is a challenge because it looks like I’m wearing jodhpurs. I guess we all should deal with the cards we were dealt. Be happy.

  95. Lucy
    September 6, 2015 at 12:03 pm #

    Confidence is attractive. Confidence is sexy. Confidence is what makes a man first look at you, when you give him a smile and let him know you’re happy and you like him. Your body is just an afterthought, the second thing he will notice not the first, and you have a whole body to look at, not just your thighs. People have preferences for different bodies, yes, just like people have preferences for different personalities. But this means that there is someone out there for everyone, not just one type of person -whoever you are and however you look, someone will find you beautiful. Be confident and happy and you raise your chances of them noticing you!

    Thank you so much for writing this article. I have a little cousin, she is just 16, and I am so worried about her. I see her posting this thigh gap stuff on her facebook page and I don’t know how to talk to her about it and let her know it doesn’t matter a jot and that she will find someone lovely and it won’t matter a damn either way what her thighs look like. I hate to think of her feeling so miserable but think that if I bring it up I might make her feel even more self conscious and make her feel worse. I really hope she can read something balanced like this, so she can know that it doesn’t matter either way. The more stuff like this out there, the more likely women and girls like her are to read it.

    For the record, I don’t have a thigh gap despite being quite athletic and slim, probably because I do rock climbing and swimming and build muscle easily. She has a thigh gap, but her genes are almost certainly to be very, very slim anyway. I don’t mind her having it -I just don’t like to see her worrying about it either way.

    • Amy Beckford
      June 20, 2016 at 7:42 am #

      Hi, what men want is completely irrelevant and of no importance, and if someone lacks confidence they can be attractive to people so ???

      Just a summary we do not need confidence to please boys, we need it for ourselves.

  96. Anon
    September 9, 2015 at 3:04 pm #

    To Lucy-

    I commented earlier as someone born with a natural thigh gap.

    For what it is worth, if anything, I was scouted by modelling agencies three times over as a teen. I’m not gloating, but adding context to make clear no man has in my entire life fallen in love wth me for having skinny thighs. And, of the men who have been worth the effort it takes to even notice, the ones that have touched my heart have been those brave, sincere and earnest enough to reach out and try…despite my thigh gap and aesthetic appearence and not because of it (I modelled when I was younger). I don’t suppose your cousin will care for what a stranger has to say, but on the off chance…i’d love to be able, as a former model and (albeit still skinny) woman, to tell her the truth of love ain’t located between the thighs and any man (or woman) who fails to recognise this is failing to find love because, quite simply, they are looking in the wrong place.

    Dare to be who you are as fully as you can and love won’t just find you, but reward you in ways nobody preoccupied measuring their thighs will ever experience…

    I know words are cheap, but you are worth (even to a stranger and thigh gap or no thigh gap) taking the time to at least try. 😉 be you and be proud x

  97. Kris
    November 20, 2015 at 10:22 pm #

    I recently saw a woman who was very attractive. She was wearing yoga pants and had it looked like a four inch thigh gap just walking. I think she was sixty or older, and sorry to say, she was so skinny I thought she might be dying of cancer. But, I looked at her and realized she was smiling and strutting around like she looked good. I am not downing the thigh gap at all. It just seemed that she was starving herself to emphasize it even more and she looked like she didn’t eat. This is what annoys me about these fads. She looked like she would have had a thigh gap already but was starving herself to death to emphasize it. Me? Sure I wouldn’t mind having one, but I definitely do not have the body type since when I was a teenager I was 3 points away from being anorexic due to a thyroid problem, absolutely no chance of a gap. Oh well.

  98. TessaR
    December 6, 2015 at 12:10 am #

    I’m 168 cms tall, 72 kg heavy woman, I still have thigh gap even if My knees are close together specially if I’m sitting. But in my world, thigh gaps are something to avoid so I can’t understand why it’s a kind of trend to follow… My waist is 12 inches smaller than my hips and I know I’m endomorph, I hate how people have different views about my body, well I don’t care anymore… I just learned to love myself eversince…

  99. Gabby
    January 6, 2016 at 1:49 am #

    I really want a thigh gap I’m 12 and I need it none of my friends care but I workout everyday and a flat tummy is everything to I really need this is that bad or good

  100. Peggy
    January 15, 2016 at 5:30 pm #

    I have a huge thigh gap and I HATE it. I was born breech and I’m sure that had something to do with the way my pelvis a femoral bones developed, but I am so self-conscious of my HUGE thigh gap, and I’ve been stared at and teased my whole life. I would give almost anything to be able to close my thigh gap, I look at other women and I am envious of their “normal” (in my opinion) legs. I’ve been thin my whole life so I do know that I have the ectomorphic body type, I’m 5’6″ and 125 lbs. I’ve tried to love my body, but it’s difficult when almost any kind of pants or jeans (unless I wear wide-leg pants, and I just won’t, they aren’t flattering on my thin frame) look ridiculous.

  101. Chris
    January 25, 2016 at 11:19 am #

    Girls, girls, girls…….please stop being unhappy with yourself. Life is short, enjoy it every day. I am a guy, and I will tell you, the most sexy, and desirable woman to me, is a woman that is happy. Everyone likes to be around people that make them smile and forget about the drudgery of everyday living. How many times have you been around someone, male or female, that just made you feel good? Did you go over their entire body with a fine tooth comb? Of course not! Did you get out the measuring tape to make sure they conformed to everyone elses idea of what is perfect? Of course you didn’t, you just had a good time, and enjoyed the people around you. This is how life was meant to be. True wealth, is the knowledge that life is to be enjoyed.
    Forget about this stupid thigh gap business. We are all built differently, and perfectly. I coud go on for days explaining to you what the perfect women is. But here is the most important point, somewhere durring my days of rambling about the perfect woman, you will realize…………I was talking about YOU!!!
    Go live, go love, and above all else, be happy.

  102. Amy Beckford
    May 9, 2016 at 2:09 pm #

    I will do anything to close my thigh gap! Unfortunately I wasn’t naturally blessed with sexy goddess legs, so I’ll have to achieve them through exercise. Does anyone know how many squats/ lunges it takes to close a wide thigh gap? Thanks in advance.

  103. RiRi
    May 12, 2016 at 9:04 pm #

    I never actually noticed I had a thigh gap! In fact, I’d never heard of a thigh gap until a few months ago! It’s so disappointing how people actually pay attention to that stuff. It doesn’t matter if your thighs touch or your breasts are too small! Be comfortable with yourself, because when you’re getting a job or internship, they’re not looking at your body and whether you have a thigh gap or not. What matters it your head and your heart and your soul. Love who you are, ladies!

    • Amanda
      May 17, 2016 at 11:21 am #

      Be satisfied and feel blessed for they body type that God gave you. You were MADE that way on PURPOSE! Don’t try to change it or be dissatisfied with it. I don’t have a thigh gap and wear holes on the inside thighs of my pants. Just be happy with who you are 🙂 You are healthy so don’t wear yourself out trying to change something that is in your DNA 🙂 You are beautiful just the way you are.

      • Amy Beckford
        May 17, 2016 at 11:36 am #

        Okay but the article is literally called “close the thigh gap” and that’s what I’m trying to do. And I wasn’t “made” I just inherited unfortunate genes!

        • May 17, 2016 at 11:41 am #

          Hi, Amy! Jen here (the author of the blog). The word play involving the word “close” is meant only to imply that we close the gap in our minds implying that a thigh gap is or is not desirable. Probably too much of a stretch — I have regrets.:)

          I did my best in the meat of the article to explain that the existence (or not!) of a thigh gap may very well have more to do with bony structure and body type than what you’re doing in or out of the gym.

          Big proponent of loving what is — which I HOPE for you includes loving your sexy goddess legs regardless.

  104. May 29, 2016 at 4:20 pm #

    Fantastic article, very nicely researched. I had no idea this was a concern to women. I personally am more attracted to a curvy frame with more thighs 🙂 and even more attractive to the gap (or more appropriately, the lack of one) in between the ears than any in between the thighs. Thank you for the enlightenment

  105. Kasi Nova
    June 16, 2016 at 9:12 pm #

    I just wanted to say u really inspired me to love my body and such. I was a TEENY thigh gap, but I really felt awkward because I saw all over the internet the “High standards” Thanks for helping me feel GREAT!!!
    PS: You are and inspiration to my next blog post on Blogger about thigh gaps and use some of your info! If u’d like can u check it out? I’ll have it ready in a couple days!
    PPS: My blog name is PusheenUnicornXOXO 😀

  106. Vivian
    June 17, 2016 at 10:28 pm #

    I have a huge thigh gap.. a square one too and I hate it. Every time i attempt to wear jeans and because of the gap between my thighs, it appears like I have camel toe! The thigh gap is so overrated. I would have loved to flaunt my ass in nice skinny jeans.. but nope that would be too scandalous. Whoever said the thigh gap is beautiful does not have one.

    • Amy Beckford
      June 20, 2016 at 7:28 am #

      I agree. I have one and it looks horrible! People who favour them and want one do not know the struggle!

    • veseloiu
      July 28, 2016 at 6:56 pm #

      Vivian, Amy,
      While I am aware that this is a blog that appears to strongly favour the lack of thigh gap, and put at ease,ladies without one, I cannot just ignore the elephant in the room and I cannot just sit and watch ladies with a thigh gap feel frustrated and unappreciated or unhappy with themselves just because they have one.
      It is strange how many people, instead of lovinbg themselves as they are, just be happy they are healthy and alive to enjoy life, they find things to be miserable about always crave what they don’t have.
      And, Amy, you are right, I do not know the struggle of somebody with a thigh gap, but I certainly adore the sexy look

      While I believe that just being healthy and happy in your skin for it is themost important, I also feel that since there have been so many comments against the thigh gap ir’s only fair that as a “pro-gap” guy may be honest about it.
      I think that nobody should feel bad about not having a thigh gap gap but also people should not knock the gap either
      And as Andrew, above was saying, a gap between the ears is of far more concern than one between your thighs, …..or lack thereof
      Unlike leglover below, who decided to actually attack the thigh gap, I will not say anything against the no-gap configuration but I, personally really adore the thigh gap and I the thigh gap as a very attractive characteristic
      I have many friends who also love the thigh gap and many friends who don’t,as they prefer the fuller figure It’s just a matter of taste, not a reflection on anybody’s qualities and values

      On a tongue in cheek basis, to paraphrase leglover, I would say that if I cannot see the altar through the thigh gap there will be no going to the altar.

      Bottom line, both men and women have highly conflicting views about many physical attributes and I think that the best thing is to learn to love yourself the way you are “safe” in the knowledge that no matter what you look like, there will be those who llike you and those who don’t and no matter how much you hate your looks,there will be women out there who would “kill” to have the exact features that you hate about yourself

  107. leglover
    July 28, 2016 at 3:21 pm #

    Just to give you a male’s perspective, I love thick, sexy thighs (and calves), and if you dress them up in some pantyhose or stockings with heels, I might just drag you to the altar right away. I never understood why people thought thigh gaps would look attractive. To me it looks like there’s something missing, like your legs should have grown closer together, but didn’t. Anyway, just thought I’d give you all a different perspective.

  108. Francine
    August 20, 2016 at 9:23 am #

    Still did not tell me how to get rid of the gap

    • veseloiu
      August 22, 2016 at 9:30 am #

      To Francine: Honestly, Francine, as a man who very much enjoys admiring attractive women, I don’t understand why you do not cherish your thigh gap, since you are lucky to have it, instead of trying to get rid of it.

      Not only does a thigh gap look very nice and attractive to great many people, (nopt all, of course) but a nice gap reduces the risk of sweaty and chaffed inner-upper thighs, friction holes rubbed into tights and jeans,etc.
      A thigh gap also seems to be quite in fashioon at the moment and I don’t think it will go out of fashion any time soon. Ihn fact, if you think about it, it has been fashionable implicitly, for decades, and there just wasn’t a name for it tomake it explicitly fashionable.
      And when many women jump through hoops to try and be fashionable, (think actual jumping t the gym, and also implants, liposuction etc) it seems strange thatyou should try toget rid of such a gift.
      You should try to also read blogs that cellebrate the thigh gap and understand why you should be happy for it.
      This blog is meant to help women without a thigh gap understand that that’s perfectly OK and they should not worry about it but just be happy and cherish themselves as they are.
      It’s just that some people were not able to just bringout the positives about the “non-gappers” without knocking the “gappers” and that is wrong, as Jen has already acknowledged, toher credit.

      Leglover’s views, above, are those of some males, not all male’s and not most males’ Clearly, many men and women do prefer a thigh gap just as many men and women don’t and you do not need to conform to anybody else’s desires but yours

      Ultimately, I don’t have to understand why you want what you want. Nobody does.

      It’s your choice and since that’s what you want, here is a simple way, even though I would not recommend it as a reasonable solution:

      Let’s call a spade “a spade”:

      To get rid of the thigh gap easily, you would just need to get fat.

      I know that most people here do not want this association made between fat and lack of thigh gap, but regardless of bone structure, there are very few (if any) fat persons with a thigh gap and I have seen ladies with impressive thigh gaps, when thin, close them by getting fat.
      How fat you’d need to get depends on body structure but if you do have a gap-favourable bone structure, it may take more fat than it would talke other persons with different bone structures.

      Building very muscular and thick thigs via LOTS of heavy squats and power cycling (- fewer repetitions but greater effort, to build muscle volume) may help as well but it takes much longer and much more effort and they are still not guaranteed to “close the gap the same way fat will. And making all that effort might well prevent you from getting fat

      Lots of fat WILL close your gap. GUARANTEED. It may also close your veins and arteries and make you unwell so clearly, I am not recommending that you go for this but if you have a wide gap this could be the only way, short of massive bone reconfiguration surgery which might be technically possible but a totally mad idea and I don’t think anybody would consider it as anything but that.

      Good luck understanding that sometimes “less is more” and here it applies to you, and good luck learning to love yourself as you are, staying healthy and happy and making the most of it

  109. suzie 33
    August 28, 2016 at 12:51 pm #





    • August 31, 2016 at 1:13 pm #

      I’d agree that there are some frustrating comments here, Suzie, and that this concept of beauty has been constructed in large part due to media coverage. Hope the post helped deconstruct some of the mess.

  110. veseloiu
    August 31, 2016 at 12:41 pm #

    Really, Suzie 33, you are sick and tired of people making stupid comments?

    Well, so are most people, I suppose.

    I would go on to say that a woman is not defined by a thigh gap or lack thereof and she is just as beautiful, lovely, smart, kind and loveable with or without it.

    Try and understand that, be nice, gentle, smart, love yourself for all the nice things that you are and you will be admired and loved for that.

    But on what grounds, exactly, are you shouting that most women do not have a thigh gap?
    For one, it’s not true, see below, if you wish, for some rough calculations
    For another, it does not matter about majorities and minorities.
    We are, and every one of us unique individuals, so an absolute minority, and let’s cherish that, not try to feel that we are “better” because there are many like us or that others are worse just because there are fewer of them.

    So, what makes you say that, about “most women”?
    Is this from somebody else, saying that on the internet? Or were you brainwashed by the media and talk from experience (of brainwashing?

    You may care to note that the part of the media that admire and praise the thigh gap do not tend to go into statistics. It’s the other camp that do…. And their statistics are fake statistics too (unless they talk just about the UK and US, with their weight increase epidemic)

    Also, on what grounds are you shouting that there is no connection between thigh gap and amount of body fat? What you’d rather believe is not always true and this time it is not, so just get over it.

    Have you, actually seen “most women” in this world, in a swimming costume?
    No, you have not…. (and neither have I, or anybody else)

    Are you talking about “most women” in your home in your family, in your town… most women you know? Women in the UK, US, Europe… “The West”?

    Clearly, if you talk about UK or US, with such a high incidence of plump, fat or obese men and women, then you may well be right when saying that “most women not having a thigh gap ” but not about the link between fat and lack of a thigh gap
    But, just for the sake of getting a clearer view, let’s do some rough calculations:

    Out of a total world population of 7256 millions, Europe’s population in 2015 was 743 million , US’ 321 millions Canada 36 Millions, Australia 24.3 millions
    so let’s say, together Europe, US, Canada and Australia (the Western “countries) may have 1200 millions people

    The rest of the countries in the world, have the remaining 6156 millions, so roughly 6(six) times more people and one would imagine some 31000 women, i.e. 6 times more women than in the “western” countries taken together, countries with higher standard of living and with lower incidence of acute poverty and malnourished, thin/skinny bodies
    This rest of the world includes China with 1367 millions and India, with 1251 and many other countries in Asia and Africa, where the vast majority of people are poor and thin/skinny and female thigh gap is predominant.
    Please note that I am not talking about the better-off part of the population who may be less skinny /plumper, or about those (also a minority) who because of their activities or sports, have very muscled legs, but about the poor vast majority who often do not have enough food to go round
    The majority of the Asian women tend to have a thigh gap well into middle and advanced age, unless they become plump enough to lose it (most never become plump) and in many other parts of the world, even if women may have a bone structures less favourable to thigh gap, they are too thin or skinny so they still end up with a thigh gap.

    So, if the vast majority in a world population of women that is six times greater than that of the women in the “Western countries” mentioned above, put together do have a thigh gap, for one reason or another (or a multitude of reasons), then how can you (or anybody else) say that most women do not have a thigh gap and that those who do are in minority ? And lying about it won’t change the reality

    Not that it matters, really: Why would it matter whether it’s aminority or minority? It’s not an ellection you could win if you were a majority… you cannot vote on it, can you.

    Today, here in the West, our lives are different we have transport and do not need lean, light bodies and a thigh gap to survive walking or running huge distances or working in the field every day, and our value in society and in a relationship no longer depends on our ability to fetch water from the river, or to work the field in scorching heat. Now we have other qualities that matter far more, so let’s concentrate on those and let’s cultivate the qualities we have and not bash the ones we don’t.

    Let’s accept that we are, each and every one of us unique individuals, therefore a tiny minority, but able to choose and associate with other unique individuals whom we like and who like us, the way we are for what and who we are.
    Let’s take that and make the most of it

  111. AmberBM
    November 8, 2016 at 5:05 pm #

    Im 20. I have had a baby. Ive always been 90-100 pounds. I have a thigh gap and always have. Im really insecure about it and want my legs to touch so bad. People always say I’m so little and I need to eat a burger and blah blah blah… I eat a lot actually. It just disappears after I consume it. I just want to love my body… I’m scared that if I do squats or something it’ll make it worse…i would be happy with my body if I gained a booty and closed thigh gap…

  112. veseloiu
    November 9, 2016 at 9:40 am #

    Hey, Amber,
    I am so pleased for you! (and I am sure I am just one in a huge mass of people)
    I am sorry that you are not happy with how you are but you are lucky and I hope you will learn to love it, especially since you have got it.
    Do your loved ones like you less because you have a thigh gap? I would not expect that to be the case.

    Please read again the comment above and understand that you are just great as you are.
    Why would you choose to listen to people who may not like you (maybe because they envy you, maybe because you highlight what they dislike in themselves)?

    And why would you choose to ignore those who would adore you for the way you are?
    I can promise you that if you get fat, very fat, your thigh gap will close but you would, most likely damage your health getting there and you’d most certainly end up being criticised by people who dislike fat people
    And then what? Lose weight and regain your thigh gap (since you are built that way) just so that you can get away from the fat-haters?

    Will you end up like a yoyo going up and down in weight to run away from conflicting views that people cannot help trying to force upon others?

    YOU WIL NEVER WIN trying to please everybody so just concentrate on yourself and on your baby and on your loved ones, try and stay as healthy and happy as you can.
    It’s surprising that you do not see how lucky you are…. at least in this respect: you can eat as much as you like and you don’t get fat and don’t need to diet ….
    There are many advantages you should be enjoying gratefully while they last… and long may they last! Things may change when you get older and don’t we so often appreciate things only after we have lost them?

    Take me as an alternative example: I am big, fat-ish, ex Rugby player, I wear XL and XXL (no thigh gap) I am bald, and I tend to dress “casual” as I get sweaty very quickly if I wear a suit /shirt and tie and I find “smart” and “formal” uncomfortable, even though I am told I look much better in smart/formal.
    I know that many women would not be seen dead with a bald guy…
    I know that many women would not be seen dead, with a fat-ish guy
    I know that many women would not be seen, dead, with somebody who dresses casual
    And many of them are very attractive

    So, what should I do, in order to find myself a nice woman that I could be happy with?

    Kill myself trying to get thin, have hair implants and torment myself wearing smart?

    NO! I like myself as I am. OK, I’d like myself more and be happier and healthier if I did lose some weight (not inconceivable and I may try and do that slowly and gently)

    I know that there are women who like and find sexy bigger, more “solid men
    I know that there are women who like and find sexy bald men
    I know that there are women who like and find sexy casual, relaxed men
    And many of them are very attractive

    And I will eventually meet a lovely woman whom I find physically attractive and spiritually attractive AS SHE IS and who would find me find physically attractive and spiritually attractive,AS I AM and try and be as happy as possible together the way we are, never mind what other people might think and try to force upon us
    The other people don’t really matter
    Does this make any sense to you?

  113. RW
    February 8, 2017 at 3:33 pm #

    I’m gonna have a thigh gap forever because I’m skinny despite what I eat and my bone frame has always been very slight. It would be unhealthy for me to gain enough weight that my thighs touch. I don’t want to get diabetes. So this article is rather silly really. Everyone has a different body type and whether your thighs touch or not says nothing about your health either way.

    • February 8, 2017 at 3:34 pm #

      That’s…what I said. In the article.

  114. Maddy
    May 10, 2017 at 10:05 pm #

    I’m 15 years old, 5’3″ and 115 lbs and I have a thigh gap. I really don’t like it. I feel really bad saying it because I know some girls would kill to be skinny and have a thigh gap, but it’s true. I’m really insecure about it. I never stand with my legs together because I’m scared of what people think. I have been dancing since I was 2 and my legs are really muscular but they just curve out. Now I’m on my high schools dance team and none of the girls have thigh gaps but me. It makes me feel different but not in a good way. I have always liked attention from boys and these days guys especially my age like the girls with a little more meat on them (bigger butt, bigger thighs, bigger boobs) my butt and boobs are pretty big for my body but my thighs are skinny and my legs are super long. I have been doing so many exercises to make my thighs bigger and I eat A LOT. I have such a high metabolism and I eat massive portions. It may sound weird but I really don’t like being that skinny. I like the flat stomach that comes with it but I want to be more curvy and filled out. :/

  115. Alma
    December 16, 2017 at 1:29 am #

    I am 20 years old mother of a 3 year old . And all my life I been skinny . One time I was 114 and it was when I was pregnant. I absolutely hate my thigh gap . My family members say I look I am riding a horse , when I walk . I tried everything ! Eating , working out but it hasn’t s changed . Any advice for losing the thigh gap ?

    • Amanda
      December 18, 2017 at 12:04 pm #

      You can’t. This is the way you were made. Closing the thigh gap is about changing the gap in our brains that says having one or not having one is bad/good, wrong/right. It’s about us being happy with the bodies we were given and being secure enough in ourselves to not care and not carry other peoples opinions to a degree that we think there’s something wrong with us. You were made in God’s image, He saw your frame perfectly formed before Him and you know what He said? It is GOOD! His handiwork’s are GOOD and that’s you and me!!

      • December 18, 2017 at 4:17 pm #

        Alma, I’m so sorry to hear you’re frustrated with your body. And, I hope you’ll take another spin through the article and look for a different possibility to walk away with. Essentially, what Amanda is saying above is true: what’s going on between our legs is NO measure of our self worth. You are awesome as you are.

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